My wife has been tested positive for HSV 2 and I am not sure of what really happened. I have been with other women in the past 3 years or so, but since my wife and I have moved in together for the past 2 and half years I have had no sexual physical contact with any other women. We had unprotected sex frequently even throughout her pregnancy and thereafter and she was negative. During the time I had sexual intercourse with other women prior to moving in with my wife (unmarried then), I used a condom in every case.
My wife was tested negative a few months ago and she recently did the test again and she was positive. I am certain she has not been with anyone else and I am the one she is more likely to have contracted the infection from.
Is it possible to have had herpes for more than 2 years and not passed it on to her when we frequently had unprotected sex? if this is so can you explain why. I find it strange and mind boggling to have had herpes for so long and did not observe any symptoms, and more so, did not past it unto her until after 2 and half years of unprotected sex.
I have heard different things from different doctors. Some say you can carry the virus for years and never have any symptoms. Others say you will have an outbreak within 2-14 days after being exposed.
I was dignosed with herpes during an outbreak, but the person I was having sex with stated he was negative, and I contacted the other 2 partners I had previously been with just in case. No body owned up to having it....So it is mind boggling.
I agree it is mind boddling...i have hsv2 and when i found out i had it i immediately contacted the person who performed oral sex on me and had him take a blood test to see if he was the one who gave it to me...the next day he went to the doctor and took a blood test and he told me he has to wait for the results,he'll know by the end of the week, but he also went on to telling me that the doctor took a look at him and believes he does not have anything because he shows no signs of any symptoms or has not been sick...i dont know what im going to do if the test comes back negative because the only person ive been having sex on and off with would be my ex boyfriend and he has told me for the months we didnt have sex he had not had any other partners....i dont know what am i going to do
I guess the thing that helped me was when I tried to find out who to blame. I decided I had to take responsibility for my actions. If I hadn't had sex or been more careful, then maybe I would not have gotten it. I wish you the best, I still struggle after 1 1/2 years, but it's better than it was.
Sorry, I meant to say when I quit trying to find someone blame, its what helped me.
Everyday I wakeup its just so hard to admit that im living with herpes and will be living with it for the rest of my life, it just makes me upset to know that people may have an idea that something is not right but instead of getting checked out they ignore the problem and pass it on to other people.....I never thought it would happen to me, and you have been living with it for a 1 1/2 and you still are struggling with it, that just makes me want to breakdown and cry....cause even if it does get better, its still not a life i want to look forward to...sex would never be the same, having relationship with never be the same, sometimes i feel i could never really be happen again....
Well, now I usually only struggle when I have an outbreak. Life and sex can be the same. I happen to be with someone that will not allow it to interfer in our sex life. Although when there is an outbreak, then it does. It's disappointing sometimes but the rest of the time is great. I remember when I told my "girl friends", they thought it was humerous. At that time I thought it was the worst thing that could happen. Hang in there and listen to some of the other stories here. There really is hope. See if maybe there is a support group in your area, talking with others is a big help.
As far as your sex life goes can you still do "everything' you were able to do before...i dont mean to get personal but can you still perform oral sex on one another and just have sex freelly and really enjoy yourself
It's okay to get personal, after all it's a very personal subject. Yes, we do everything including oral sex. We don't worry about it or think about it except when we have an outbreak. Then we have to chill till it passes. I'm sure it varies from couple to couple. Take care.