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By Living With It Monday, November 16, 2009

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In July I went to the doctor and she thought I had herpes so she perscribed me medication to take (which helped) but when she got the test back it came back negative. Before it came back I told my boyfriend right away that my doctor thought I had herpes. He was speechless but told me he loved me and I was the only one he wanted to be with the rest of his life so he didn't care. We were so happy when it came back negative. Last tuesday, I had an outbreak again and hoped and prayed it would come back negative like the first but it came back positive. I was devestated but I had already cried my tears and went through feeling like crap and tried to stay positive about it. I told my boyfriend Friday and he said it sucks but he loves me and again i am the only one he ever wants to be with. If he gets it he gets it but it makes me feel less down on myself knowing he is ok with it. We have talked about everything and its nice to know I have people that support me even if they do not know what I am going through.

I do have questions still that are not answered.....Is tanning good or bad for it? If i go is it going to make it worse? Also, what are some things to help keep the pain down? The first one was very painful and my second outbreak isnt as bad but still about as many bumps and very itchy. Will every outbreak have as many bumps? this time it isn't in the same spot as it was last time. Do they move around??? Last but not least....what are good things to do to keep my immune system healthy?

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11/20/09 12:23am

Herpes can only be spread from contact with the actual sores and not body fluids. As far as what will cause a breakout it depends on the person. I have read where some people say that they do get an outbreak a few days after, but others don't.They say you will have to try it to find out. Taking warm baths helps with the pain, and good hygiene. Also, ask your doctor for some Zovirax Ointments. It's to help with the ithcing and burning. I've noticed that on me every outbreak is different. Sometime I have less bumps, and they are in different places. The outbreaks won't hurt as much as time goes by. For your immune system you should go to you vitamin shop, and ask them what's good to take to help. You should know that sometimes with an outbreak you will have some discharge and you are going to start noticing a wierd nasty smell from your vagina. Well just know that that's normal. I hope I was of some help to you.

In the same boat

11/20/09 6:08pm

I found out in April of this year because I had my first outbreak (completely caught me off guard) and it was terrible, to say the least. I had the same reaction you did and was sooo depressed. My relationship was new at the time and I'd gotten it from my boyfriend. He had no idea that he was infected because he'd never had an outbreak (still hasnt YET, but tested positive). I didnt fault him because he didnt know; were still going strong today.

I'll be honest. I think to myself that IF this relationship doesnt work out (knock on wood). How can I move on to a new relationship knowing that I have this disease? Could this be a major obstacle in my romantic life down the line? That's the part that I have a hard time coming to grips with.

You'll have outbreaks from time to time in the first year, but they're childs play compared to that initial outbreak. Nobody can truly understand how terrible it is unless they experience it 1st hand. All I wanted to do was lay down because that was the only time I wasnt in pain, OMG (sorry, I digress).

The outbreaks thereafter have only occured in one spot at a given time (different location each time). I've noticed that the sores will always crop up in one of the same spots that were affected during the 1st outbreak, not randomly.

As far as treatment goes, I'd taken Valtrex for the 1st outbreak but, havent since because a. I'm leary of side effects & b. too damn expensive (even with drug insurance). I take 1 Echinachea daily and I take Lysine whenever I feel the symptoms of an outbreak. I load up on like 3000mg of Lysine a day for 2-3 days til the symptoms subside (there are no side effects with Lysine).

no name

5/10/10 7:33pm

i recently talked to my doctor about what are some things to help prevent outbreaks.. she said that taking folic acid vitamin pills or like a multi-vitamin supplements is -in her words- "in theory, one way to reduce the amount of outbreaks" ... soo i'm trying it. but, i've only been diagnosed since december of 2008 and so far have only had that initial outbreak and 1 in may of 09 and may 2010. soo... i'm not sure if i'm going to be able to make improvement or not. ... annd, i am still trying to come to terms with it. i'm very depressed about it even though i've only had one a year so far and i hope it doesn't get any worse than that... i've heard that it only decreases over time. so that's a positive. i wish they'd hurry up and find a cure =(

Living With It

5/10/10 7:39pm

I'm with you on the cure part! I have been having out breaks after out breaks so I'm on pills everyday and if I forget to take them for a couple days it comes right back so I'm trying my hardest not to forget to take them. Having my boyfriends support has really made this process a lot easier. I was diagnosed in August of 09 and I was devestated and thought my boyfriend would leave me but to my surprise he didn't care he said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me so if I had it and he got it he was ok with it even though I will feel terrible if he does get it. Having the support of my boyfriend and sister has helped me get on with my life and not let the herpes jokes and having out breaks bring me down. If anyone needs some boost of encouragement just let me know!

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