Genital Herpes - (Questions, Comments, Advice, etc..)

By miss marie Friday, February 29, 2008

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I found out i had genital herpes over a year ago. My partner at the time had an outbreak, not knowing what the rash was he decided to go and get checked out. When he found out that it was genital herpes i decided to get checked out even tho i had not had any symptoms of infection. When my doctors called to give my results that i tested positive for genital herpes i thought my life was over. To be only 17 years old and find out i have contracted a serious STD that i will have to live with for the rest of my life was heart breaking.

But i read up on it. I've read thru brochures from doctors offices. I have asked many doctors. I have visited many websites. Couldn't tell you how many times i've used google to search. But then i found this site. I decided it would be helpful to speak to actual people who have genital herpes. Ask questions to others in the same situation. Well here i go.. Please respond if you do have any information or advice.

So as i said i tested positive for genital herpes over a year ago. But i still have never had any symptoms to my knowledge. I have never had an outbreak. No sores or lesions. Not a thing. At first maybe i thought the test was wrong. I wanted a second test but my doctor insisted the test was correct. Stated "A herpes test that comes out positive is positive. One that comes out negaitve is negative. There is no in between with herpes." Whatever that means. Anyway.. So i guess my question is.. Has anyone else had this problem?? Any advice for me.. Comments, Questions, Anything??

Anyway.. so the partner i was with at the time whom i believe i contracted genital herpes from blames everything on me. His mother is a nurse and claims if the guys outbreak consists of blisters (lesions) on his genitals then it came from the girl. I read up on that and have never heard anything of that sort. Has anyone ever heard of that????

Anyway.. So now over a year later. I am with a guy who does not have genital herpes. He helped me thru everything. We have been together for about 8 months now. And yes we do have sex. We are very safe. I was taking valtrex.. But discontinued use due to side effects. It was making me sick and literally crazy. Anyway. We use condoms. And have not run into a problem yet. Maybe because i have never had an outbreak.? But he recently decided he wanted to perform oral sex on me. And i have been pretty unsure about it. What should i do???

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gina

3/ 1/08 3:08pm

Hi miss marie:

I have know people who have gone months and years without an outbreak, but are positive for hvs. I would advise against him performing oral on you with out some type of vaginal barrier, like a condom, the chance are very high that he will contract the herpes virus.

CAM, Editor

3/ 4/08 11:02am

Hi miss marie, my name is Camilo and I am monitoring this Sharepost Community. First of all let me thank you for posting on our community. Although I am not a healthcare practitioner and thus cannot offer you any professional advice, I can try my best to direct to some helpful sections in our site that you may find helpful in answering your questions. I think it is great that you have already been so proactive in dealing with the virus, from getting tested to practicing safe sex. From your post it seems that your main concern is an issue of transmission in respect to whether or not engage in oral sex and the question of whether you gave the virus to your ex boyfriend or vice versa. To answer these questions you should check out the following article links written by our medical expert, Dr. Grayson. I think that you will find them very helpful in answering most of the questions you have about the transmission of the virus ranging from oral sex to transmission by an inanimate object. I also added a link to our site with other suggestions on how to practice safe sex with your current boyfriend

1. Transmitting Herpes: How to Protect the ones you love.

2. What to do when your partner is diagnosed.

3. Genital herpes from oral sex?

4. How can I keep from spreading herpes?

5. Can I transmit herpes through kissing?

6. The Truth about HSV1, HSV2, and oral sex

7. Can I get Genital Herpes from a toilet seat or other inanimate object?

8. Safe sex

Lastly I would like to direct you to an article that may put your curiosity at ease regarding the latency (lack or symptoms for a long period of time) of your infection -- What are the symptoms of herpes and when should you expect them?

Please post again with any other comments or questions you may have, and don't forget to consult your physician before adopting any new knowledge into practice!

CAM

Tina

3/ 9/08 5:22pm

Hello Miss Marie,

I read on this site and several other sites (sorry I don't have any links) that the risk of transmitting genital HSV-2 to anothers mouth during oral sex is possible but the chances are very slim and doctors don't know why. Because there is a risk, even though it's slim, it is suggested that you use a dental dam or a other reliable barrier. I do know other "mixed" couples who engage in oral sex and have not passed anything, but you never know.

I'm currently in the same situation as you...no OBs and dating someone who does not have any form of herpes.

o321rick

3/10/08 1:23pm

Like you, I have never had an outbreak. I tested positive after my wife developed a serious lesion/outbreak that she says is the result of my affair with another woman. My girlfriend never tested and we are not together anymore. Anyway, I have posed the same question in this forum and "asked the experts" I have yet to get an answer as to the probability of someone without symptoms, but positive, transmitting herpers through oral sex (giving or recieving). I am beginningto think that this is due to a lack of complete knowledge about the virus. I also wonder sometimes why if pharmaceutical companies can develop a drug that reduces outbreaks and symptoms (at great expense) why can't they develop a propholaxis treatment that eliminates the virus. If you get something other than the abstinence is best response, please forward it to me.

Anonymous

3/10/08 8:54pm

Hi, I am also in complete disbelief over this.. but I have read many sites explaining that you can get the herpes virus from hs-1 and transfer to genital hs-2, so I think that is the answer you want, haven't you read it?? it states cleary that if someone has an open sore on the mouth, they can give it to the genital area.

Anonymous

3/10/08 8:51pm

I too found out I had genital herpes exactly a year ago, crazy thing was... the guy that called me that I had just had unprotected sex with and told me he was diagnosed with it, had only been a few weeks prior, and the doc said it takes 6-12 weeks for anitbodies to show and mine did! which then made me wonder if I had contracted it earlier and from someone else, so tough to tell and drove me crazy! never had an outbreak to my knowledge... but this weekend, getting better from the flu and my menstrual cycle, I started noticing discomfort and pain, starting looking at my genital area to find some sweeling on one side .. and this morning saw a lesion , very sore and kinda like a small cut, freaked me out! since my doc had given me a medication orally in case, I started taking it immediately and hope to god the pain goes away, just annoying .. I've been with my current boyfriend for 7 months and we are not having protected sex and he's never had any symtoms. I"m still scared on how my life will be and dont know if my outbreak will continue or stop alltogether, been reading alot and called my doc today she said it did not sound like a herpes sore because it's more like a blister, so i'm confused, has anyone else had a painful like split in the labia area and not a blister?

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