Life change

I got it a few months ago after deciding to give my ex-husband another chance. We did not use any protection and about a week later he tells me that he might have herpes. I wasn't sure how to feel at first and then I figured okay we are together and I guess if things stay that way then it's not so big of a deal. It turned out that he did give it to me and I was even hospitalized with viral meningitis believed to have been caused by herpes. Well, all was fine until a few days ago when I realized he was keeping things from me and turns out he was still communicating with some other lady behind my back and so I left him, again. Now I just feel kind of stunned that this is happening and now I feel like no one will ever want me.

It is possible to feel better. It takes time and no one can tell you how long, its up to you. We as the people who get it and are stunned, hurt and scared because we didn't know at the time these people are holding this secrect. But as long as you look at it as if there was not more to you besides sex before you knew you had it, then you will not feel better. You have life after, youhad goals before, you had dreams before, you can still get there.  Love is out there, if not only from your child.  You will have life after. that is why this sight is here, to talk to people who are going through it too.

im so sorry to hear that....i was diagosed in sept of 2008....it is veryhard for me as well. i am also nervous about passing it on to my children. I have good days and weeks where i might think about it, but the thought soon goes away. On the other hand i have days where i cant stop thinking about it and get really depressed!!! i also start thinking of other worse possibilities and std's... again im sorry...i understand the mental anguish this causes. I am also an asthmatic and i have a higher chance of issues with my asthma however that societal stigma of gential herpes is hard to shake,,,,