LIFE GOES ON!!!  About 2 weeks ago I found that I was in pain while I was urinating. It burned so badly I almost fell of the toilet. I thought that maybe I had a cut or a rip on my vagina somehow, rough sex maybe, I thought. I decided I should go to my doctor. The next morning I did, he took a culture. 2 days later I got the news that I had herpes. I cried. I cried for 2 days straight. I was so ashamed. I felt like no one would ever accept me, love me, or treat me like anything but a whore. About a month or so ago I had had a one night stand with a guy. I had never done that before. In fact, I hadn’t been with anyone in months before that. It was a crazy night and I was stupid. I will now pay for that one crazy night forever.

So now I have known for about 2 weeks and I am doing alright. I am actively treating the virus with Valtrex as well as natural things like Vitamin C, Zinc, and L-Lysine. I am also looking in to colloidal silver, which has shown some significant results toward curing Herpes. (yes, curing...not just treating...)

Emotionally, I am going to be okay as well. I have to accept that I am going to have this forever. I am going to have to walk this road and accept it no matter how badly I wish I could change it.  I had been "talking" to a guy, who I told about the Herpes and now he and I are not speaking. That hurt but that just tells me that he wouldn’t have been there for me if I needed him in the future.

It really helped me to do as much reading about herpes as possible. I read not only facts but also lots of personal stories. There are thousands of couples out there who are happy even though one or both partners have herpes. You can find love, you will be ok, you can have children if you so choose.

You will be ok... YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! One in five Americans shares this with you.

I hope I could help a little....

~Sabrina

I cannot say, precisely, that I can understand how you feel, but I can offer my own experience as someone who is in a relationship/loves someone who has been infected.  When my boyfriend and I first started dating, I wasn't entirely sure if he was interested because he was very... stand offish, sort of (at least thats what i thought it was at the time).  We had been friends for a few months (he had actually still been dating the girl whom he got the disease from when we first met, but they had broken up at the point we began dating).  We had a great time together, and from that time one I have never been happier.  Within a few days of our first kiss, he (very nervously) told me we needed to talk.  He explained that he had contracted herpes from his previous gf, and even though they had not been happy for a long time he had felt "tricked" into staying with her because he felt that no one would ever want to date him again. It was difficult for him to talk to me about this, and to be honest, I was also in quite a bit of shock. I didn't know much about herpes and/or how it was spread.

But he was honest with me. And that fact, more than anything, made me realize that I would be a fool not to give this wonderful man a chance simply because he had made a mistake in the past. Lord knows, I have/had made plenty and was only lucky  not to have contracted that, or any other disease or infection, myself.  We have been together ever since, and we are happier than ever.  I now get angry when I hear people making jokes about the herpes commercials ("'I have herpes.' 'And I don't'") because that is our life. I love him and plan to spend my life with him, but I also understand the risks involved and we are always honest with each other. (i.e. he tells me if he thinks he might me having an outbreak, and I tell him if I am ever not comfortable having sex). There is love after herpes, and I wouldn't change anything about my boyfriend.