My boyfriend has genital warts... and maybe now Herpes

By Sarah Friday, January 25, 2008

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I'm blessed my boyfriend has told me he has genital warts from HPV and he took a test because he had his first outbreak and the test showed positive for Herpes. He said it didn't hurt, itch, or anything of that sort. We have never had sex and I know i'm good for now. I love him like crazy but I worry if I get herpes and genital warts will i ever be able to have kids? I know it's not a big deal and I spoke with my mom and he said until there is a cure if we have sex, I am at risk for genital warts? I'll use condoms of course but he knows i'm not ready for sex again, because my last boyfriend sexually assulted me while I was sleeping, please don't judge about that... i have a sleeping disorder where it's hard for me to wake up. I hope to get some feed back. Thanks

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MK, Editor

1/30/08 10:16am

Hi Sarah, and thanks for your question. My name is MK and I am the producer for this site. While I am not a certified health professional, and cannot answer your questions specifically, I can forward you to some information on our site that might be of help.

While condoms have not proved 100% effective for the prevention of STDs, they do greatly reduce your risk of contracting and unwanted STD. Check out our information on Condoms - it tells you which ones to avoid, how to put them on, etc. Also, check out our information on Prevention, which discusses the importance of condom use, and other ways of preventing the spread of herpes.

Our info on Causes and Risk Factors talks about HOW herpes is transmitted, and what NOT to do if you want to protect yourself.

I hope this information helps. Let me know if there's anything else I can answer for you!

sarah8604

2/ 4/08 11:11pm

THanks mk... i appreciate it... well my boyfriend is still doing research about the herpies... and it seems it may have been miscalculated but we are still staying safe. I love him soo much it wouldn't matter if I had it or not but you know... perfer not to. Thanks

shae

2/ 8/08 8:11pm

my boyfriend just told me he had herpes today. i love him so much too and i am in the same situation as you are. he needs me the most now and i'd be guilty as hell if i left him. for some reason, i need someone to relate to. do email me and perhaps we could talk. i havent had sex with him yet, although i wish there was a cure. take care.

Wendy Hassam

4/11/08 6:14am

It is not an easy place to be in. I actually left my guy when he told me about his infection as he demanded an answer to "would I have sex with him" immediately. I told him I needed time to think, which he took as a rejection, and proceeded to tell me this relationship was going nowhere, and that he was ready to move on. I, of course, was devastated but in the end felt his behavior was extremely manipulative and decided that it was best if we part waves. My advice is this: If the guy really loves you, he will understand your fears and give you time to make up your mind. If he pressures you to give an answer immediately, forget it. Obviously he is not that serious about your relationship!

Sarah

4/22/08 11:36pm

Well my boyfriend and I have decided to wait to have sex... and the good news is now he might not have herpies... his doctor has it may just be his genital warts that made the answer to herpies positive. Today he got them removed and will do another procedure soon. If he had herpies i'd still be with him

My boyfriend has genital warts... and maybe now Herpes

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