Along that same scenario, I got into a relationship with a woman who I thought was the "one" but turns out I was wrong. Before becoming intimate with this woman, I informed her that I had HSV2 and that if she chose to have sexual relations with me that she could be at risk. She felt it was worth the risk because she apparently loved me too and thought we would be together forever. Cut to scene 2. She became ill and was fighting another infection, we thought she was over that infection but turns out she really wasn't and we had relations during this time. She consquently was infected by HSV2 even though I wasn't having an outbreak but must have been shedding the virus at that time. She got all the classic symptoms and was sick for almost a week and had a very painful episode of blisters. Things deteriorated very rapidly for us after that and she left me. She's very angry with me for infecting her and says she feels dirty and humiliated and resentful. Consequently all relations have since ceased between us and we no longer even talk, text or anything for which I'm very sorry. I myself feel guilty for giving her this gift and feel like I've lost the love of my life because of it. I truly hope they find a cure for it one day because until they do, more and more people will get this and it truly is a curse.
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I have HSV1 and have never transmitted it to my husband of 23 years. We had been together over 25 years. He has never shown signs nor tested positive for HSV1 either orally or genitally. We are no longer together but I have a partner who told me on a second (non sexual) date that he had HSV2 and wanted me to know before things got further along. I did my research and we continued dating. We do not have sex during his outbreaks (once or twice per year). However, we choose not to use protection the remainder of the time after many many hours of research. There remains a possibility I or he will contract the others HSV but the chances are slim and we made these decisions together as a couple. Other factors are that with aging it creates performance issues when using condoms. And for us, the risk is not significant in the face of our continued and growing intimacy and love.