telling them...?

I'm at the point in my life when I want to find the right person, fall in love, get married, and start a family.  One minor problem is I have herpes.  When I do begin dating someone, I'm struggling on how I am going to tell them.  Or when.  I am fully educated on the disease, and yes, it sucks ass to have it, and I hate it, however, the media and the public, make it out to be some horrible deadly thing.  It's not, I understand that, I've had it for three years with no outbreaks or anything, so it's not as bad as what people joke about.  I'm just not sure when to tell the person, obviously before having sex or anything, but not sure.  Also how do you go about it?