newly diagnosed and in need of advice

By spunky248 Tuesday, December 11, 2007

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I have been recently diagnosed with genital herpes and feel as I am all alone. None of my friends have it, and I'm angry at this point. I know that anger is waste of time but is also part of the grieving process. Are there books I can read, support groups I can join, is there hope that one day I will find a man that will love me? Do I have to give up on my dreams? Medically what is my doctor not telling me? Any advice would be welcome. Wacko

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rnjh

12/12/07 8:49pm

I am so angry with myself right now. Some days are better than others. I had my first outbreak at the end of October. It was horrible. And all of the other circumstances that surrounded that very moment is embarassing. I am also looking for a support group to join. All of the information I have recieved has been online. I am an ICU nurse, so I feel like I can get good information. Then it goes back to being so humiliated that I HAVE HERPES. What the hell. Sorry if I wasn't any help to you. It makes me feel better to talk I guess.

spunky248

12/13/07 1:07am

We may have a lot in common, I'm a pediatric nurse. I felt that I should know better, I am a healthcare professional. I am so ashamed of myself for letting this happen to me. My first outbreak was so painful then the doctors visit was humilating. I felt that they where judging me. It helps to know that I'm not alone.

rnjh

12/13/07 10:35am

I know what you mean about the MD visit. The first time, I didn't have pain, but he told me thats what it was. I then had to go home and explain to my husband that I had herpes. I obtained it from an extra marrital affair. There is so much to my story that I don't want to bore you, but the next week my husband made me get an HIV test and many others. Thats when I had to admit to the MD that I got it from an affair instead of from oral sex. (thats what he suggested on the first visit, probably so that he didn't look like he was jumping to conclusions or being judgemental) Needless to say, life sucks at this point, but I have no one to blame but myself.

smiley21

12/13/07 2:55am

it has been a little over a year since i was diagnosed and none of my friends have it either. i feel like the anger still comes and goes...but it all depends on your perspective on things. i have my good and bad days (some days i never think about it and others i can't get it off my mind) but i def think talking with others who are/have gone through the same struggles as you helps. i found there was a lot of stuff online that could help you mentally and also to learn more about herpes and different things that can help you. if you ever need to talk don't hesitate to send me a message, comment, or anything else

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