Scared To Have Sex

candidreams Community Member May 31, 2008
  • I only found out two months ago that I have genital herpes, I am scared to death to have sex again, How long does this feeling last? Does anybody else have the same problem.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Jun. 18, 2008

    I just found out in that I was infected with genital herpes and shut out every guy that was in my life. Any guy that approached me in that way I turned down. It is such a selfish feeling to have sex with someone and spreading the virus to him. The greatest thing about having herpes is that I found a guy who didn't care if I was infected. He didn't care if I...

    RHMLucky777

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    I just found out in that I was infected with genital herpes and shut out every guy that was in my life. Any guy that approached me in that way I turned down. It is such a selfish feeling to have sex with someone and spreading the virus to him. The greatest thing about having herpes is that I found a guy who didn't care if I was infected. He didn't care if I infected him because he liked me for me and my personality. When you find that right guy, you would be scared to death to have sex. If the guy really loves you, he will make u feel really comfortable and be able to just have sex. It will last however long you let it last. I didn't let herpes affect my sexual life and it hasn't. You just got to be real real careful when you're having sex. 

  • Michelle
    Jun. 03, 2008

    Its a hard thing to accept, I know. I cried for days and was very upset for months but then time goes by and you learn to deal with it and definitely get medication and just always be caustious. I have had some scares and i have been lucky but sometimes luck runs out but for now I take my medication and I use condoms and I let the person know whats going...

    RHMLucky777

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    Its a hard thing to accept, I know. I cried for days and was very upset for months but then time goes by and you learn to deal with it and definitely get medication and just always be caustious. I have had some scares and i have been lucky but sometimes luck runs out but for now I take my medication and I use condoms and I let the person know whats going on. That was the hardest part for me. When you find out you dont want to tell someone because you dont want them to think badly of you but you would be surprised by people! Good luck, hope it gets easier!

  • MariposasButterfly
    Jun. 02, 2008

    Hi there friend....

    I don't know how long the feelings last.  I have not been with anyone for almost a year and a half.  The last person I had sex with was with my ex who gave it to me.  I will assume its a scary nerve racking thing.  But maybe if we find the right person who is understanding and still desires to be with us despite the risk...

    RHMLucky777

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    Hi there friend....

    I don't know how long the feelings last.  I have not been with anyone for almost a year and a half.  The last person I had sex with was with my ex who gave it to me.  I will assume its a scary nerve racking thing.  But maybe if we find the right person who is understanding and still desires to be with us despite the risk then maybe we shouldnt feel so nervous. 

    I

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Jun. 08, 2008

      I am sorry it took me so long to write back I have been so busy lately. I was wondering what do I do when I am still married, I don't want to be touched by my husband or touch him.