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Rubyred
Tuesday, June 09, 2009 at 06:29 PMre: Untitled Comment
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Saturday, June 13, 2009 at 07:43 PMWow im in shock that u passed it while even wear a condom wow. Did u tell your partner u had herpes before u slept with them?If u told him u had herpes & he caught it thats not your fault. He took that chance & knew it could be possible that he could catch it. Now if u didnt tell him u had herpes then yes i can understand of why he would never talk to u again. Trust me the guy i slept with didnt tell me he had herpes either it sucks. I got it 6 months ago & hes still denying it.
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Stillalive
Friday, June 19, 2009 at 07:57 PMHello everyone. I am a 20 year old female. When I got the virus, my then boyfriend and I had been together for about 6 months. In a matter of 2 weeks, I found out that I was pregnant, he was cheating on me, and he had given me HSV (I had been tested before and had never had anything). Wonderful, right? That was really hard for me to deal with...
But if there is anything I have learned from this it is:
1. always be careful, condoms every time.
2. wash up after sex, always, you and your partner.
3. honesty is the best policy, because no one deserves this without knowing.
It will never be easy, but you would be amazed at the difference in the people you end up with. I look at it as almost a blessing. Because the ones who just want to "hook up" are not the ones willing to take that risk to be with you, and that is universal for men and women. Additionally, in a new relationship, you take the time to get to know someone and by the time you even have to tell someone, you hopefully already have some sort of emotional connection.
Maybe I am just lucky, it has been 4 weeks since my very first outbreak and I am doing very well. I am already in a new relationship and happy. I hope that if nothing else, that can give someone else some inspiration.
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Anonymous
Friday, June 19, 2009 at 08:44 PMSo you have a new bf who isnot hsv positive? How did you go about disclosing?
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Stillalive
Friday, June 19, 2009 at 11:54 PMyes, I do. On our 2nd date I turned him down and just texted him the next day and told him why. Said, "Sorry about last night, don't get me wrong, I wanted to, but I can't." and he asked why and I told him, "my recent ex gave me something pretty serious." And he admitted that that was scary and I replied saying that it wasn't HIV but that it was still going to follow me around forever, but that I would understand if he didnt want to see me anymore. He said that it may be weird but he still thought I was cool and we went from there.
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The virus can shed without symptoms, called asymptomatic shedding. There is no way of knowing when this will occur. This is the main reason why HSV is so common, people don't have signs but still have the virus and pass it to someone else. When you say you are careful, do you mean you use condoms? I thought I was being careful and used condoms. I had sex with my new boyfriend (using a condom) and that very night I had a tingly feeling that indicates the onset of ao utbreak. He has not responded to my messages in the last 2 days and I am concerned I passed it to him. I have read that condoms are not 100% safe and now my experience just may be proof of that. I am so afraid I have passed this on. I am learning more and more about this condition and realize I need to work on not having sex too early so that I can have the time to be able to disclose before engaging in sexual interaction with the ones I am getting close to. It is certainly a learning experience and very scary. But I am educating myself and hopefully I will learn from this and be able to have the strength to do whats right. Hopefully you will too. Good Luck!