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Hi,
Having been recently diagnosed, I read through quite a few articles on protection.
I realize I am still angry after my diagnosis...however...this article as a closing statement says "Next Time Use Protection"...so after a year of sleeping with my boyfriend after having been told he was clean, then marrying him...only later to find out he likely infected me (we are now divorced)....please advise how I would have continued to use a condom throughout my 9 year relationship and 6 years of marriage?
Quite a few women have a similar story...what then? Use a condom with your husband for the rest of your life, is it not supposed to be based on trust?
Could you tell me how you have handled all this? the getting herpes from your husband? I got this from my husband. We had been married for 10yrs, and I just found out, and I found out because I thought I had a bladder infection and the doc ruled it was herpes. He told me I was being naive to believe I didn't get this from my husband (we are now seperated and going thru divorce). But, how have you managed getting on with you life? I feel dirty and like who would want to date someone that has this? Am I making sense?
I started dating a lady about 4 months ago and i am 40 years old and only fell in love one other time in my life. Well to me she was extraordinary and i fell quickly in love with her. I feared i might have hsv2 and felt like it might get physical soon so i tested and it came back positive. I never have outbreaks so its weird but she broke it off and it was about a month after the results came back. I went into a depression but better now but still in love with her. I never got to tell her and she told me she didnt miss me or think about me so felt being friends would only work for her. Before the diagnosis she didnt act that way and i know i was majorly insecure when i found out i may have hsv2. Should i not hold this against her i feel if the tests came back negative i would still be with her?
Hello, I first found out three years I was infected by my boyfriend who said i might of got the herpes virus from my husband who pasted away in 2004, the summer of 2007 after a week of being sick, my boyfriend couldn't tell and he was a nurse. I didn't want to be touched out all. We kept are relationship because it seem there wasn't anyone to be with. I moved to my home town of dallas where I reunited with specical man I knew ages ago. We dated four months, after we boned I was very scared to tell he but I had too. He was angery for not telling him before we did the naughty, I was in the wrong. WE still have a bond and still engage in a sexual relations. And yes it very scary to date any one WHO dont have the virus, I know the feeling of hurting,loneiness and who share your fears with. We can all have an active sexual relationship with the right one, dont have sex when theres an out break and keeping up with medications to supress the virus (Valtrex once a day pill) have any questions talk to your locate doctor. Keep the faith you'll find a special person to share those moments with.
I was in a short relationship, 6 weeks, that was going way too fast. He talked about marriage and children and asked me to help him decorate his home. When I decided to tell him I had herpes he was devastated. He thought about it for a week and we both agreed it would not work out. He didn't want to be exposed to it and have to be in the same situation that I am in if we didn't get married. Everything else in the relationship seemed so perfect-we wanted the same things. Raise a family and I would stay home with our children. I felt so rejected that I became physically ill and I am still recovering after 6 weeks. I am 36 and desperately want to marry and have a child before it's too late. Now I feel like there is no one, that is worthy to marry, that would ever want to be with me. I am so afraid of being rejected again, that I just don't want to start a new relationship, ever again. I know I definitely need some time to heal, but I am just so afraid to enter a relationship.
Oh, man I feel for you! I am lucky to still be with and be in love with the man who unknowingly gave this to me. I do wonder what it would be like if something happened to him what I would do. I do think I would go straight to an std dating site and try to find a relationship with this shared diagnosis. Makes sex so much easier and not scary. Life is as normal most of the time. He doesn't get breakouts so that is why he didn't know. I am not that lucky but am managing ok. There are lots of really great people out there. I wouldn't maybe shut off totally the option of dating someone without it but it would not be an option I would want first. The understanding of both carrying it is so nice. Many good people out there and trust that there is a man who will love you and want a child with you. This doesn't have to be the major focus of life just seems that way when you are looking for that open honest mature relationship. Blessings to you! Don't sit back !!! Go out and get what you want and deserve! : )
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It is very useful. Many people find the first time that they tell someone is the hardest. Here are some more tips for talking about it before a relationship becomes intimate:
http://www.stdpal.com. It is a niche community for Herpes singles