It is hard to tell your partner you have Genital Herpes  face to face. Send a voice email or Ecard make it much easier. Some std dating site such as STDcupid.net offer this kind of free services. You may also mention some websites to let your partner know the disease.

Telling a potential partner is so important. I have had HSV since 2006. I have told every partner since then and have not had a negative experience yet. The first time was definitely scary, but it has become less so as time has gone on. The most important thing I have found, and studying psychology for so many years helped me to realize this, but HOW you say something has a lot to do with how someone responds to it. I developed somewhat of a 'script' in which there are major points that I need to get across. If you tell your partner like it's the end of the world, they are likely to respond to it in a similar manner. If you are calm, educated and open to questions this will greatly reduce the chances of eliciting a negative response from your partner. It is never an easy thing to talk about. Another important factor, is WHEN you tell them...as the doc said, don't do it when you're in the middle of a makeout session. The sooner the better, I have found. Always before you have any kind of sex!! Remember a negative initial repsonse is not the end of the world either, they may just need time to understand what you have just told them.

A friend put things in prespective for me, "It's not going to kill you, but it will help you weed out the [jerks]."

Juliet

3/ 9/10 12:35am

I completely agree....but a lot of times I am more worried about the person I confide in telling what I just told them to someone else we may both know....most of the guys I meet that I become interested know at least one other person that I know....I get really scared that they are going to tell someone because from my experience you never really know if you can trust someone until you cant....:(