Hi, My name is Reds and I defientely can relate to your pain, I just found out yesterday that I had gential herpes and was exposed to it 13-14 years ago and never had any symstoms that I was aware of. I kept on having itching, burning, and very bad pain but I would have never thought it would be HERPES! I've been with my boyfriend for 11 years and we have 4 children together it was so hard breaking the news to him do u have any suggestions for me about maintaining our relationship because he said, he is not blaming me but his attitude is different now sense yesterday.

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can you tell me which medication for herpes are you using? I have been living with herpes for the past 7 years, and only now about 2 moths ago i started to take aciclovir. i only had an outbreak minor one since and I think it's working for me. I never had an outbreak after i contact it but for some reason it started 2 years ago to have recurences pretty often. you should also take something that makes your imune system stronger the reason you have often outbreaks might be because you are not strong enough. meaning you don't rest, you don't eat the right food, and you tend to stress out for little things. try to exercise do a lot of yoga...it 's been helping me...hope you'll get better

Hi,

I know your experiences all too well because mine are the same, if not similar. To get right to it, when I feel itchy I pour scolding hot water  over the outbreak, increasing the temperature until the itching subsides to nothing. Although it may hurt to the touch, the itching stops. I prefer to be left with slight pain to itching. Right after I pat the area dry, sometimes I blow dry the area on the cool setting. Then I dab a small trace of Acyclovir on the area, get a small square of toilet paper to cover the area and, put on my underwear (making sure the underwear is fitted, not tight, so the square does not move around). I make sure to change the square each time I use the bathroom (removing it gently and replacing it by lightly pressing it down).

Further, I have also invested in Lectroject (searchable on google). I use it everyday; it keeps the lymph nodes from swelling and outbreaks away. However, once I stop using it, the outbreaks come back aggressively. I also take L-lysine if I feel sharp leg buttock pain which radiates to my lymph nodes - this is not a common symptom for me but a really painful one. At this point I will place lectroject on the lymph node and in about a day the pain will subside.  Lectroject can prevent this traumatice episode as long as I use it daily.    

This is my current remedy but not a perfect one. I am still struggling as I am fedup with having to use Lectroject daily without end to see results.

As far as my boyfriend, he is not concerned but he is a sexaholic. Thus refraining from sex has caused a lot of problems in our 3 year relationship. We both want to begin a family. I have been holding back in hopes to get my outbreaks under control but, I do not see how this will ever happen.

Well, I have been living with it for 2 years now. At first it was so so bad i was so sad. But than my doctor told me to take Valtrex and i do. Since than i have gotten one more outbreak but not as painful. I take 500's Usually and if i feel like i am about to have an outbreak i take 1000's and it goes away the next day. You cant smoke or drink Coffee when you take it. Otherwise there are no side effects. Also when i told my BF about it he said he does not care at all. He told me that he does not care if he gets it because he loves me so much and we live and die together. I would recommend looking into Valtrex for sure and taking it once a day. Your life will become almost normal again. As everyone else said try not to sweat there too much that means no tight tight jeans. Shower every day and dont touch no matter what. If you touch the area it makes it way worse. I hope it helped you a little. Jesse.

I too, found out this month that I am infected with herpes form my husband who recently started using drugs. I was so hurt and devastated because he is the second  man I've had sex with. In all honesty,I felt suicidal after hearing the "news". However, I will tell you this: my relationship with God is what keeps me standing. I constantly repeat -"The joy of the Lord is my strength" (Nehemiah 8:10) and "No weapon that is formed against me shall prosper" (Isaiah 54:17). Those scriptures build my faith and it gives me the courage to face each day. As for symptoms~I refuse to take medication because I believe God will clean out my system and destroy this infection from the root. Most of the medication causes more problems. My advice to you is the same advice I follow: keep your immune system healthy. I take a multi- vitamin,plus vitamin c,d, and e. Adjust your diet drink plenty of water. Break open a capsule of vitamin e and use a q-tip and apply it to your sores, it eases the pain. Use as much "fragrance free" products as possible for your undergarments. Cranberry juice cuts down on the  urinary tract infections, dannon yogurt and monistat helps with itch and odor, if any. Drink lots of water. Keep praying and trusting in God to heal you. Love will find you and the person that loves you will love you and understand what you are going through, so don't be discouraged!Do not let what you heard from a doctor , stop your life.Each day alive is a blessing !You are in my prayers and I wish you God's blessings! Take good care of you! Never forget you are special and a blessing in God's eyes!

Just keep in mind there is life after herpes it was once extremely difficult for me and it was challenging to break the news to my boyfriend. This was (2) years ago and we are still together and he loves me unconditionally! There is a product that will suppress your outbreaks immediately- check out this site at neveranoutbreak.com there are so many testimonies and it seems to be a very good product. Keep your faith and remember you're not alone and always know in your heart there is "Life after Herpes" does exist!!

God Bless~

I have had Herpes since I was Six years old (Yes Six) and I have found that my DR was right stress is a bigggg factor in outbreaks.  The stress you are causing yourself over having something you (lets face it) can not do nothing about is making your condition worst then it has to be.  I have not only had relationships in my 36 years I have been perposed to 4 times by four different men.  I only said yes to one however ( lol).  Anyway some guys are really great about the whole thing and yes some guys are not. 

Thing is you need to relax and learn to live with your condition.  Life is too short and your missing out on life worring so much.

Life is good