Hi, My name is Reds and I defientely can relate to your pain, I just found out yesterday that I had gential herpes and was exposed to it 13-14 years ago and never had any symstoms that I was aware of. I kept on having itching, burning, and very bad pain but I would have never thought it would be HERPES! I've been with my boyfriend for 11 years and we have 4 children together it was so hard breaking the news to him do u have any suggestions for me about maintaining our relationship because he said, he is not blaming me but his attitude is different now sense yesterday.

                                             PLEASE HELP!

Smile

6/21/08 2:35am

My heart goes out to you!   I can relate because I found out the same shocking news about 2 weeks ago. It almost destroys you because of the shame  that goes with it. But I will say God is faithful and He is walking with you. You have made the first big step, which is being honest with your mate.

 

Now the choice is up to him. If the love is real, it will take him some time but his feelings for you will not change. Continue to take care of yourself,take vitamins, eat right and pray. You are not alone and you are special. Don't believe negative feelings~trust God for healing. I wish you the best!

Hi,

I know your experiences all too well because mine are the same, if not similar. To get right to it, when I feel itchy I pour scolding hot water  over the outbreak, increasing the temperature until the itching subsides to nothing. Although it may hurt to the touch, the itching stops. I prefer to be left with slight pain to itching. Right after I pat the area dry, sometimes I blow dry the area on the cool setting. Then I dab a small trace of Acyclovir on the area, get a small square of toilet paper to cover the area and, put on my underwear (making sure the underwear is fitted, not tight, so the square does not move around). I make sure to change the square each time I use the bathroom (removing it gently and replacing it by lightly pressing it down).

Further, I have also invested in Lectroject (searchable on google). I use it everyday; it keeps the lymph nodes from swelling and outbreaks away. However, once I stop using it, the outbreaks come back aggressively. I also take L-lysine if I feel sharp leg buttock pain which radiates to my lymph nodes - this is not a common symptom for me but a really painful one. At this point I will place lectroject on the lymph node and in about a day the pain will subside.  Lectroject can prevent this traumatice episode as long as I use it daily.    

This is my current remedy but not a perfect one. I am still struggling as I am fedup with having to use Lectroject daily without end to see results.

As far as my boyfriend, he is not concerned but he is a sexaholic. Thus refraining from sex has caused a lot of problems in our 3 year relationship. We both want to begin a family. I have been holding back in hopes to get my outbreaks under control but, I do not see how this will ever happen.

I too, found out this month that I am infected with herpes form my husband who recently started using drugs. I was so hurt and devastated because he is the second  man I've had sex with. In all honesty,I felt suicidal after hearing the "news". However, I will tell you this: my relationship with God is what keeps me standing. I constantly repeat -"The joy of the Lord is my strength" (Nehemiah 8:10) and "No weapon that is formed against me shall prosper" (Isaiah 54:17). Those scriptures build my faith and it gives me the courage to face each day. As for symptoms~I refuse to take medication because I believe God will clean out my system and destroy this infection from the root. Most of the medication causes more problems. My advice to you is the same advice I follow: keep your immune system healthy. I take a multi- vitamin,plus vitamin c,d, and e. Adjust your diet drink plenty of water. Break open a capsule of vitamin e and use a q-tip and apply it to your sores, it eases the pain. Use as much "fragrance free" products as possible for your undergarments. Cranberry juice cuts down on the  urinary tract infections, dannon yogurt and monistat helps with itch and odor, if any. Drink lots of water. Keep praying and trusting in God to heal you. Love will find you and the person that loves you will love you and understand what you are going through, so don't be discouraged!Do not let what you heard from a doctor , stop your life.Each day alive is a blessing !You are in my prayers and I wish you God's blessings! Take good care of you! Never forget you are special and a blessing in God's eyes!

Tayla

6/20/08 11:18pm

Thank you for your positive words, I have had this for 15 years and have not had a boyfriend since only one man knows I told him because I really liked him he said it was not a problem but he still rejected me, I feel so alone and hopeless for a companionship/relationship and thoughts of a husband seem so out of reach. and I don't want to take the medications plus they are just too expensive especially when you have rent,food and gas for your car all on a limited budget All that said I just want to thank you for what you wrote it was so uplifting and beautiful and I wish you a very blessed life.

Smile

6/21/08 2:27am

You are very welcome! Being in the same boat~ I know the hurt and the feeling of isolation and feeling out of place and ashamed but remember God's power through Jesus is greater. He will not allow you to go through more than you can handle !

1 Corinthians 10:13- There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: But God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

The Lord is aware of every detail that concerns you! Nothing is "unimportant" to Him. You are on His mind ALL the time. Like I told you, I understand how you feel and yes it hurts and it makes you feel like nothing good will happen in your life because of what you heard a doctor say. BUT instead of believing false evidence appearing real, BELIEVE the truth. God is still in the healing business!

Isaiah 53:5- But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities; the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.

Psalm 34:18- The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.

No matter how long you have had this disease~ God can and will heal you if you believe. The most powerful advice I can give you is to get your mind off yourself. Believe and say to yourself 'Something good is going to happen to me' and continue to take care of yourself and trust God to put love in your life. Because what God has for you is for you and NO ONE can take it! You will meet a man that loves you and cares for you and will understand and believe me when God sends him -he will NOT reject you!

Keep the faith! You life will be happy again. Thank God even at the hardest most painful and hurtful times and He will turn your situation around! Anytime you need to talk,I'm here. God loves you so......SMILE!

MizTayla

6/21/08 7:13am

Thank You! It is so wonderful to hear something spiritual about dealing with this and I believe God sent me to this website to read your posting. I have printed out all you have said and will meditate on it and follow your advice and I will remember you in my prayers as well. You have a beautiful and positive spirit and have used that to bless and build me up. which it one of the subjects on 5/20/08 in my daily inbox inpsirations I get from Joel Osteen,  (joelosteen.com) it talked about being a people builder (Thessalonians 5:11) and God has given me an example of what he meant on how to be a people builder through you, by allowing me to read your post, your are definately a people builder I am forever grateful to have crossed your path.

Smile

6/22/08 4:14pm

I listen to Joel Osteen, Joyce Meyer,and so on. Reading,listening and having time set aside to spend with God is the key. Bring all your worries and concerns to Him. He is ALWAYS listening! It makes the struggle easier to know that God has EVERYTHING under control. It is a blessing to have come into contact with you and when you go to the doctor and they tell you your system is clear of all diseases you let me know! Believing for you , me and everyone else that is facing this disease. Keep your faith and enjoy your life. Take care of yourself!

believehim

2/ 5/09 11:44am

i is so true about God i was diagnosed with herpes in October in 2008 when i left the Dr. i sat in my care and was about to cry when God spoke to me and told me to start to fast, at first i did in once a month and i wasnt working, then he corrected me and told me to fast for 21days, and to eat nothing but to drink only 100% juices with no additives, i had me a juicer so i juiced veggies and fruit to get my 100%, the bible says pray, fast and give and thats what i did for the 21days, it says seek the kingdom of God and all his righteousness and all things will be given to you. Aweek before my fast was over God spoke to me again and told me that when i finished my fast to be Baptisted again. I have not had another breakout since then seek God first, and then belive that he died on the cross for our sins, and trust in what you are asking God for.

 

 

god soldier

11/ 3/09 1:31pm

Thank you so much for your testimony. I am writing on behalf of my daughter, she really has no one to talk but God because of the shame that comes with this virus. I just spoke with her and told her she have to get alone with God and get direction as to her healing. She contracted this virus about 5 years ago, I immediately began praying and believed I heard the Lord say that he would heal her and there was one Sunday at her church when the man of God ask all those to come down for prayer because God wanted to heal some people, so she went. We thought she was healed because she had not seen the virus for 2 years. She had gotten into a big argument with her best friend, you know the rest, yeah it came back, so it came back twice since and one of those times she felt it coming on and she asked God not to let it come down at all and it didn't, she has not had an outbreak in about 4 months now. So I told her to find out from God what direction she needs to go to be healed completely. So thank you for your testimony because I believe, I know that God is a healer.

shamefullyyours

9/22/10 6:48pm

i think your testimony is sooooo inspiring. I have the virus for about two years and have told no one possibly becuase of shame and guilt and all the disgusting looks that come along with it. I am spiritually sound and believe in Jesus christ as my lord and savior. I have constantly asked god to heal me, prayed , fasted and cryed. It went away for about 7 months but it came back recently. i was wondering if you had any advice on what i could do to recieve what you recieved. What am i doing wrong, what do i need to stop, start or both?

nee

9/14/11 5:10pm

you forgot to pray to let God know that you  recieve Gods healing can not pray and ask God to heal you and not pray that you recieve Gods healing.

nee

9/14/11 5:10pm

you forgot to pray to let God know that you  recieve Gods healing can not pray and ask God to heal you and not pray that you recieve Gods healing.

I have had Herpes since I was Six years old (Yes Six) and I have found that my DR was right stress is a bigggg factor in outbreaks.  The stress you are causing yourself over having something you (lets face it) can not do nothing about is making your condition worst then it has to be.  I have not only had relationships in my 36 years I have been perposed to 4 times by four different men.  I only said yes to one however ( lol).  Anyway some guys are really great about the whole thing and yes some guys are not. 

Thing is you need to relax and learn to live with your condition.  Life is too short and your missing out on life worring so much.

Life is good