Very frequent outbreaks while using anti-viral drugs

I have been living with genital herpes for more than 2 years now. I have yet to come to terms with it, and I still feel down when I experience an outbreak (which is very frequently). I have a major outbreak almost every month, normally the week prior and during my period, and sometimes more minor symptoms.

I feel that these outbreaks are ruining my life, as I feel self-conscious, my sex life is very limited due to the pain and it is even affecting my work and social life.

I have been prescribed anti-viral drugs, but they have little effect. The symptoms are quite painful, and I experience quite alot of inching and discomfort both inside and around my vagina. The area seems swollen and has lots of small white bumps.

Can anyone suggest anything to help me? As my boyfriend is leaving for university soon, and I am terrified of being alone. I can't even imagine dating again. How do you date when you have herpes? I feel like I am never going to have another relationship ever again because of this. Surely anyone would run a mile at the mentioning of me having an STD? It all makes me very self conscious :(