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Saturday, January 31, 2009
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How you interpret, cope and move on from difficult experiences shows character, bravery and levels of maturity. When I found out I had herpes (back in November 2008) I thought my life was over. When I told my boyfriend he was hostile and unsupportive. After a week, he came around to "deal with this t...

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I completely agree with you!
Sam
Saturday, January 31, 2009 at 09:10 PM

I am so glad you came to that conclusion. I ve come to a simmilar conclusion as well, and I applaud you for that. That is exactly, what people like you, and like myself needed to learn from this experience. We are worthy, and beautiful human beings, no matter how others may view us due to this condition. I too, used to put a lot of emphasis in choosing the right person in my life and almost always chose wrong. Now, Herpes is a device to help me take care of my health, and to help me pick the right people who will be supportive of me, just like you did. I was diagnosed back in September and developed another serious condition called post herpetic neuralgia afterwards. I know what its like to live in daily pain now. I am on pain management medication. I too, now value those little moments in life when I am not in pain. Those are the happiest moments for me now, where as before I took it for granted. I took my health for granted. Now I do not anymore. I am also, slowly but surely getting there. I am learning to accept that I am just not virus free anymore, and my life has changed abruptly ( I have other vaginal issues like yeast infections, a genetic dermatitis) and I understand now that the person who is finally my companion some way down the line, will have to be truly a special, supportive person. God bless....

re: I completely agree with you!
Pulling through
Friday, February 06, 2009 at 10:38 PM

Hi Sam, Thank you for your reply. I had a wave of happiness when I wrote my sharepost and felt the need to share it with people who understand my circumstances. I'm really glad you came to similar conclusions. I'm not going to lie...I have my moments where I think why me, but then I remember how lucky I really am and try to push those negative thoughts away. And now I think it is my time to really focus on rebuilding my life after all this has happened, I already hit a rock-bottom trying to deal with this, and breaking up with my boyfriend - now I just need to really re-discover who I am, and what I have to offer as a person; re-defining myself so that I don't let my disease define me. I sense it will be a rocky road ahead but that's ok as long as I get there in the end.

I wish you all the luck and happiness in your journey. Keep smiling :)

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NL
Saturday, July 25, 2009 at 09:03 PM

Thanks for your post...I was just diagnosed a month ago. The person that I think gave to me was someone I had just started dating and it was physical from the first date. He just got his results and came back positive. We haven't talk about it and I've dealt with this with the support of my best friend and a previous boyfriend who I had to tell just in case as he was the only other person I thought could have given it to me. His results came back negative and despite the news I gave him was grateful and offered his emotional support.

As for the person that I now believe gave it to me; he calls from time to time, but have not talked about; although, we see each other at work; yeah, another mistake we work in the same building, luckly not together, but I do see him on a daily basis. He has a bunch of issues (financial problems and kids) and it sounds like he doesn't want for us to talk about this. As for me, I have tried, when I gave him the news he reacted in a calm demeanor and listen and got tested the following week, but I have received and support from him. In my mind and heart we are I just hope we can remain cordial.

I made my peace I take full resposibility for my actions and know that even with herpes I deserve better than that. I still want someone that can respect me and that can make me feel loved. This whole thing is not easy I feel sad at times, but I don't blame anyone. I only hope that this guy and I can move on with our lives peacefully and that this situation does not affect our careers.

Life is full of wonderful things and I will continue to enjoy them...with precautions, of course!

Thanks