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I support you! You deserve so much more!
Sam
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I kno what you mean
Spectra
Wednesday, March 04, 2009 at 09:03 PMI totally get it when you say "you were pleading your case". I mean I don't ever want to be in position where my partner could hold the fact that I have GH over my head and said that I "owed" him. I suppose I could say that he doesn't deserve you and you will find someone else, but I'm in an emotional funk right now and I could not say that with any great certainty. I'm sorry if this hurts you but I suppose you can only depend on yourself to find a way out of this.
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Pulling through
Friday, March 06, 2009 at 08:36 AMThank you Sam and Spectra for you responses. Sam, your kind words helped so much to get through this instance of turmoil. I think you are right, that I need to leave it in Gods hands because otherwise Im going to go insane. Control is something I dont have over someone elses reactions, choices to be with or without me once they know my secret. I just have to wait until I can find someone I really trust. My ex (that came back) I think just wanted a one night thing, and expected me to be the same girl he left a year ago. I grew up and made a mistake since then; and Im realising no matter how angry I get, I cant change my mistake so all that is left to do now is take care of myself. Spectra, you are very right too. Depending on myself is what needs to be done; learning to trust myself after making a stupid mistake that changed me forever is necessary because counting on others to tell me I'll be ok (meaning ex boyfriend) isnt going to happen - he doesnt understand/doesnt want to either. Timing is everything; and that night, everything was off. I was following my heart (what a fool am I!) and hoping he'd accept me instantaneously because of our history. The truth is, I dont trust people; I don't trust him...he broke my heart once, he hurt me again, why give him the satisfaction to have the power yet again to hurt me? It isnt worth it. thanks again to both of you and hopefully one day I'll be strong enough to be ok.
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MGChick
Monday, March 09, 2009 at 11:53 PMI'm sorry if I don't greet you by username, I didn't catch it before I decided to reply and now it's too late. :-) I just wanted to tell you THANK YOU for what you just said. I'm in a similar situation. Just had "the talk" with this ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC guy I've been dating for the last couple of months. He reacted well initially. Even called me later that night and said some incredibly sweet and understanding things that made me cry. But since then, I have seen a change in him. He is more distant, isn't as excited when he hears my voice say hello on the telephone, acts bored when we're having a conversation on the phone, just all around disconnected. I was taking this all to heart in a very painful way, and dwelling on it all day today. Your words have put this in perspective in a very clear way. YOU ARE RIGHT. I need to leave it in God's hands because, otherwise, I'm going to go insane too. I don't have control over his actions or reactions, and his choice to either be with me or without me. I just don't.
I love my Father in heaven, and I had forgotten what was most important here. My life is in His hands, and so should all my worries be. THANK YOU for reminding me of that!!! (tears running down my face as I'm typing this...) I hope all the best for you. Life is what we make it.
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My first love
Ash526
Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 02:24 PMI dated this guy from high school to college, the love of my life. I broke up with him and was too stubborn to say sorry, I screwed up. Well after that I started dating my childs father, but still looking for my ex. I figured I blow it, so semi looked. Needless to say it didnt work out wth my child's. I then met a man that sold me dreams, and gave me gh, he had been cheating the whole time. Well about a year a go my love came back to me. He found me first, but i decided to be friends and not tell because Im not sure how he would act. He just got married in Dec. he said it should have been me but I would not respond to him. I just dont want to change what we had and remember about us. We talk all the time. Dont start feeling bad just know that you would rather look out for someone else that temporary saticifation.
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Your inner beauty will never be erased...not even with something like the herpes virus. Herpes has nothing to do with your character. The qualities that make you who you are have nothing to do with "you having herpes" This guy was not knowledgable about it"... What is meant to be for you in life will be for you. He has failed two tests already. Number one, first he left you; and now he has hurt you once again". He truly does not deserve you. Trust me, if he does not see it now... he will see it someday. I know someone who rejected someone due to herpes and after a few years went by , now she has it". Let's hope he never gets it from someone else. Just Let go and Let God... take care of stuff like that. You deserve so much more than that. I am truly so very sorry that you have had to endure this heartbrake... I know it sounds cliche, but even if someone hurts you and does some damage, and even if you thought he was the most perfect thing in this whole world, this proves that he is not perfect for you. If he does not take the time to understand where you are coming from and makes his decision, then he is not for you. Remember, those people with cold sores (oral herpes) , which will be 70 percent of the population are not any better than those with genital herpes (20 percent). He should pray that he is never in that situation... You don't worry about that. That's his loss and your gain. May god bless you with true love in the future.
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