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oh no, i could lose the person i love.

By Shannon Friday, January 25, 2008
So the colloidal silver is working well. I've been outbreak free for about 5 monthes now since my diagnoses. I got a boyfriend about a month and a half ago and we became sexually active pretty quick. As anyone would understand I didn't have the courage to tell him about my herpes. I've gotten more involve with him and I want to make a comitment to him. So today I di what I had to. I told him about it, and that i was sorry for not telling him earlier, but that this herpes makes me feel unloveable and i understand if you wouldn't want to be with me anymore. Of course I've been crying all day. His initial reaction was good though. Well first he thought it was a joke and then he got it that i was serious and was shocked but he said he still loved and still wanted to be with me for the rest of his lifesaying that i was the only thing he's ever really cared about. It's hard for me to believe though. So i'm waiting for him to think about for alil bit and soak it in. He'll break my heart if he leaves me and just prove my thought of being unloveable with this, but i'll understand his decision. It'll kill me inside and out though. I won't be ok for a very long time.
To all the people contacting me about the Colloidal Silver.
MK, Editor
1/30/08 10:30am

Shannon,

 

You did the right thing by telling your loved one that you have herpes. It shows that you respect him enough to be honest with him about things that you aren't necessarily comfortable about. You are courageous!

 

In the future, the earlier you tell your partner, the better. That way they can do the research and learn how to protect themselves, but also enjoy their time with you. Also, make sure you are using condoms at all times.

 

Please check out our page on Dating and Relationships to learn more about how you can protect the ones you love, and how best to handle telling your partner and explaining your condition to him.

 

I hope this helps. Stay strong.

 

MK

 

 

 

 

Anonymous
Anonymous
3/21/08 4:50pm

Shannon,

 

I have just started a new relationship and have avoided being intimate because I feel I should tell him first about the herpes. I feel like the person who gave it to me was dishonest and I don't want him to feel the same way about me. I really like this guy and I'm not sure how he is going to react. You are right about feeling unclean. It will crush me if hedoesn't want to take our intimacy further, but I will eventually get over it. Stay strong and I hope things work out for you.

 

DJ

Anonymous
bbdone
2/18/09 9:34pm

You seem like a nice young person, but, please, you must be more positive in your thoughts!  You will NOT die and you will NOT be unloveable, just your opinions about yourself will create unlove and unhealthy life and relationships.  Love yourself more by desiring to have a long, healthy and happy life with or without the person whom you are with now.  If he leaves, it's because you were not honest with him, not because he doesn't care.  Be honest with yourself.  You are loveable and you MUST remember that!

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By Shannon— Last Modified: 12/18/10, First Published: 01/25/08