Life is hard enough

Connie,

Please do not feel like this is the end of the world.  I can totally relate to what you are saying you are feeling.  I was told over 10 years ago that I had it.  I too felt embarrassed, upset, ashamed, angry, and wasnt sure how my family would react.  My mother is a nurse practitioner and I have  a sister that is a doctor.  My mom has actually been very supportive.  Over the years I have only told a handful of VERY close friends.  I always told someone I was dating right before we were to the point of being intimate.  I honestly have to tell you that it is very hard to tell them, but i have NEVER had a guy quit seeing me because of it.  I am just very cautious and never have intercourse while I have a breakout.  I am now married and my husband is very supportive.  Over time, you will see that it is not as bad as it initially seems when you first find out.  People are not as surprised as you would think and I believe that probably more people than we realize have this also.  I know it's hard to do, but PLEASE keep your head up and don't let this ruin your life. 

Honey: 

You are not alone and you are a beautiful gift from GOD.  My daughter was recently diagnosed and is dealing with the same issues.  I am searching around here for comforting words for her and I read this.  Everyone has something in their lives.  Yours while being a nuisance, is not life threatening.  Yes, there is a societal stigma attached but lets really think about it.  It is a virus which causes blisters.  We think nothing of it when we see someone with a cold sore, which we know is herpes, we just don't address it as that.  You get cold sores (maybe you won't) in your genital area - mucous membrane area.  There is a saying "adversity builds strength". You will become strong from this and a better person.  I am a nurse and have seen many tragedies.  This is NOT the end of the world.  Look for someone who will cherish you.  He is out there.  And when you find him, live a wonderful happy life.

Hi Connie,

Thanks for contributing to the community with your Sharepost.  I know EXACTLY how you feel.  When I first got diagnosed, about 5 years ago, I couldn't think or talk about it without bursting into tears.  But, trust me, that feeling goes away with time.  It's ok to be upset about it right now, but don't be too hard on yourself.  This disease is very easy to contract and essentially anyone but a nun could get it.  Your having herpes doesn't make you a bad person and I'm sure your family and friends will understand that.  In fact, many times when I've told close friends that I have herpes, they respond that they too have herpes, or HPV, or have had some other STD.  If they haven't, then another close friend of theirs have.  I mean, seriously, this stuff is sooo common.     

As other people have pointed out, your love life is not over.  It is totally possible to have herpes and still have a successful relationship.  I have been with a few guys who were fine with my health condition.  If they like you enough, then they'll look beyond it.  Recently I posted a couple Shareposts about how to tell you partner called Setting the Scene and Breaking the News.  In it I share my two cents about how to tell someone, based on the experiences I have had.  I'll continue to keep writing about different topics.  If there's anything you'd like to read, let me know.

I just want you to know that what you're feeling right now is probably the worst it will ever be.  Really, it gets easier with time and when things are in better perspective.  I hope you continue to share your views with us.  I also recommend you check out the Basic of Genital Herpes and some of Dr. Grayson's posts.  With herpes, knowledge is definitely power.  

PJ.

Hello, my heart aches for you! I hope you don't hate my guts , but is there any medication that could help you live a nearly normal life? Prayerfully, you will get a partner that can help you through this process....

Has your existing partner been checked! Perhaps ,they will be your life partner!

Hey. I know you msut be thinking 'why me?","why are all these horrible things happening to me?". I know how you feel. Trust me, even though I am a complete stranger, trust when I say that there is a huge purpose as to why all these things happened in your life. You may not understand it now, but all those things happened in your life for huge reasons. Do you know how many young women's life you can save with your testimonie? Bet you didnt think of that. You must also think there is no God. But little do you know God is watching and counting every tear that rolls down your cheeks. Sometime Gods allows us to endure heavy situations in life so that we can become better and stronger. You must became stronger from this. Dont remain weak because you can save many lifes. Let me tell you, this is my first time on this website, i was not looking for a herpes website, all i wanted to do  was to check up on news on health. I dont have herpes, but I have gone through a lot in my 19 years of living. This is not a coincidence, it may sound corny, but you must believe. And know that there is a cure. God has your remedy, he is the only one that can preform miracles. No doctor can cure you only God. So put on a smile and face the world becuase you have lives to save and advices to give! god bless!

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