so yes yesterday 7-2-2008, i was informed i have both types of herpes. I honestly cant stop crying. I have always been cautious and get my self check many times through the year. It sucks to know that someone did this to me and i may very well have done the same thing to someone else. to me the biggest thin that is hard to handle is hoping that your friends family and loved ones can understand. It also hurts to know that just when i feel my life can be happy something horrible happens. I have had many life effecting experiences. I was molested when i was a child, i was rapped on the night of my senior prom and now i have been diagnosed with herpes. For me it just makes me think what the hell could be next. Right now I feel so alone even thought i know so many have this. I feel like i will never be accepted. I feel like people will never look at me the same again and all because someone can protect them self by getting check normally. I feel so hurt that the boy i was dated cheated on me and i get punished along with him. I feel so sick, I cant eat sleep and cant look at anyone i care for without wanting to have a major breakdown of what they will say to me when i tell them. not only is it had enough without an STD to find a person that will love you for you, but now i will watch people i truly care about walk away from as i struggle to feel a sense of being wanted. i wonder what life will bring me next
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You are not alone and you are a beautiful gift from GOD. My daughter was recently diagnosed and is dealing with the same issues. I am searching around here for comforting words for her and I read this. Everyone has something in their lives. Yours while being a nuisance, is not life threatening. Yes, there is a societal stigma attached but lets really think about it. It is a virus which causes blisters. We think nothing of it when we see someone with a cold sore, which we know is herpes, we just don't address it as that. You get cold sores (maybe you won't) in your genital area - mucous membrane area. There is a saying "adversity builds strength". You will become strong from this and a better person. I am a nurse and have seen many tragedies. This is NOT the end of the world. Look for someone who will cherish you. He is out there. And when you find him, live a wonderful happy life.
Hi Connie,
Thanks for contributing to the community with your Sharepost. I know EXACTLY how you feel. When I first got diagnosed, about 5 years ago, I couldn't think or talk about it without bursting into tears. But, trust me, that feeling goes away with time. It's ok to be upset about it right now, but don't be too hard on yourself. This disease is very easy to contract and essentially anyone but a nun could get it. Your having herpes doesn't make you a bad person and I'm sure your family and friends will understand that. In fact, many times when I've told close friends that I have herpes, they respond that they too have herpes, or HPV, or have had some other STD. If they haven't, then another close friend of theirs have. I mean, seriously, this stuff is sooo common.
As other people have pointed out, your love life is not over. It is totally possible to have herpes and still have a successful relationship. I have been with a few guys who were fine with my health condition. If they like you enough, then they'll look beyond it. Recently I posted a couple Shareposts about how to tell you partner called Setting the Scene and Breaking the News. In it I share my two cents about how to tell someone, based on the experiences I have had. I'll continue to keep writing about different topics. If there's anything you'd like to read, let me know.
I just want you to know that what you're feeling right now is probably the worst it will ever be. Really, it gets easier with time and when things are in better perspective. I hope you continue to share your views with us. I also recommend you check out the Basic of Genital Herpes and some of Dr. Grayson's posts. With herpes, knowledge is definitely power.
PJ.
Hello, my heart aches for you! I hope you don't hate my guts , but is there any medication that could help you live a nearly normal life? Prayerfully, you will get a partner that can help you through this process....
Has your existing partner been checked! Perhaps ,they will be your life partner!
I found blisters on my genital area today. It looks like Herpes. I will be getting it tested at the doctor's on Monday. I was diagnosed with shingles back in 1998 which were on my upper buttocks. I am pretty sure it was misdiagnosed. The blisters were too dry, and she said the culture might not show. So, basically I'm thinking for some reason it showed up on my genitals this time. I wanted so bad to believe it wasn't what I thought it was, but on closer inspection I knew I was screwed. I wondered whether this was a new disease or just the old "shingles" acting up in a different area. I don't get it. I haven't even been sexually active in 10 months! Still for 10 years I have told myself it was shingles (Herpes Zoster) since the culture came back negative. And now I'm thinking it was Herpes Simplex all along. Shingles are usually very painful and I did not feel pain. I was always deathly afraid of contracting this. But it looks like I have lived with it for 10 years now without "giving it away." Who knows what the future holds. I still need a formal diagnosis. But I doubt it will ruin my life. I really enjoy sex and there is no way I'm gonna let this stupid disease (which breaks out only twice a year at most) ruin it!! If the guy I end up marrying can't handle it, he was not worth it anyway. I know it hurts. I am kind of numb right now knowing this is the real deal. My mom isn't very supportive and just kind of blew it off. But I have been through a lot of shit in my life and I'm gonna just keep on breathing in and out and keep on fighting the adversity. I know I can't give up. Life throws all kinds of horrible shit at you, it's just how you handle it. Love yourself first!
hello just found out that a room mate has herpes and my problem is that she is not taling the whole thing to heart she is in an active out break and even has bumps on elbows.. she is setting around on cloth funiture in shory shorts and hand washing is un known if she does and what about the toilet..
I love her she is family and i don't want to catch it from he craching her self and using my bath lufa .. i am not scared i really need help
my e-mail address is laurabondd@yahoo.com.
write me some answers
toilet seat???
chairs ...
should i get checked we don't have sex but she is uncaring about my children in the house too..
advise me quick..
please... thank you
Hey. I know you msut be thinking 'why me?","why are all these horrible things happening to me?". I know how you feel. Trust me, even though I am a complete stranger, trust when I say that there is a huge purpose as to why all these things happened in your life. You may not understand it now, but all those things happened in your life for huge reasons. Do you know how many young women's life you can save with your testimonie? Bet you didnt think of that. You must also think there is no God. But little do you know God is watching and counting every tear that rolls down your cheeks. Sometime Gods allows us to endure heavy situations in life so that we can become better and stronger. You must became stronger from this. Dont remain weak because you can save many lifes. Let me tell you, this is my first time on this website, i was not looking for a herpes website, all i wanted to do was to check up on news on health. I dont have herpes, but I have gone through a lot in my 19 years of living. This is not a coincidence, it may sound corny, but you must believe. And know that there is a cure. God has your remedy, he is the only one that can preform miracles. No doctor can cure you only God. So put on a smile and face the world becuase you have lives to save and advices to give! god bless!
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Connie,
Please do not feel like this is the end of the world. I can totally relate to what you are saying you are feeling. I was told over 10 years ago that I had it. I too felt embarrassed, upset, ashamed, angry, and wasnt sure how my family would react. My mother is a nurse practitioner and I have a sister that is a doctor. My mom has actually been very supportive. Over the years I have only told a handful of VERY close friends. I always told someone I was dating right before we were to the point of being intimate. I honestly have to tell you that it is very hard to tell them, but i have NEVER had a guy quit seeing me because of it. I am just very cautious and never have intercourse while I have a breakout. I am now married and my husband is very supportive. Over time, you will see that it is not as bad as it initially seems when you first find out. People are not as surprised as you would think and I believe that probably more people than we realize have this also. I know it's hard to do, but PLEASE keep your head up and don't let this ruin your life.