Just when he started to open up

i had sex with this girl an she has had it for a long time an isntnt haven ne outbreaks but we had sex n i didnt know till after the fact n i dont know if i got it yet but im sure ill find out

If you are on valtrex suppressive 1 gram and you have been using condoms most likely you have not given him anything and he is probably overreacting because he has an itch.  He has to be informed and willing to work with you here.  If he is not, then there is nothing that you did that was wrong.  You have been honest with him from the very beginning and you have been having responsible sex too.  There are antiviral gels and stuff. Christopher scipio's book is great to read for both.  You have done nothing wrong at all.  If he can stick by you, then he wasn't ready to deal with all of what this entails.  I have genital herpes too and like you someday I will be telling someone I have it.  You have only been honest you know. He needs to meet you half way.  You were a victim of someone who did not tell you at one point. He is not... u have been nothing but responsible and honest with him. He needs to see beyond his narrow perception right now.