I'm no doctor, but I just went through the same thing. I was tested because I was constantly getting yeast infections and my doctor asked me have I ever been test for Herpes, well I thought they give that to you when you have your annual exam done but they don't. Anyway I was positive and told my partner and he immidiately blammed me. I blammed him because he had cheated on me before, but once we both talked with our doctors we found out there is no way to tell how long you have had it. Number one people with it rarely have symtoms, and number two you can not see the virus or know you have it unless you specifically ask for that test. It's only one test to find out. Which is my problem, society forces people to take HIV test all the time but how come we never here about HSV. I was uneducated on this subject.