I've had a cold sore, for about week. This is the first one I have EVER gotten. Well on Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday I performed oral on my boyfriend then right after had sex with him. Then on Saturday morning I was doing research on cold sores when I saw something about giving someone genital herpes from a cold sore. I told him about it and we are both terrified. We are probably just freaking out, but I need some advice. Like
1. What is the percentage that he & I now has genital herepes.
2. What is really so bad about genital herpes? Are they as bad as everyone makes them seem?
3. Should this stop us from having sex all together?
4. Does this mean NO more oral sex?
5. How do I go about getting tested?
Someone help please!
Lots of questions here and some a bit tricky to answer. Let's start with oral sex. You are correct in your statement about cold sores relating to the Herpes virus. This article called The Truth About HSV1, HSV2, and Oral Sex should shed a little more light on the topic. And this on the symptoms of herpes may also be useful.
As to how terrible or otherwise herpes is, this varies from person to person. In terms of outbreaks, some people may only have initial symptoms and then never experience anything again. Others don't even know they are carrying the virus. Some have six or more eruptions a year and have a pretty miserable time. You may already know that that once you have the virus it stays with you, so you have to take precautions about spreading it. The virus can be shed at any time but the chances of transmission are far higher if you are having an outbreak.