i resently found out i have herpies own my own how do i deal with this ANY ADIVE PLEASE!!
hello,
im a girl at age fifthteen i have parents that i cant talk to kuz wat happend in my past.im not a open up person i keep everything to myself. i resently found out i have herpies because i found out i have little bumps on my lips and im not sure i wanna get a test but im to scarded o doin this all on my own .
im stuck on my own i dont now wat to do i feel lie im dyein inside. my mother never listens to me so theres no point in talkin to her. && apart from that shes the only adult that lives with me i have no family members here. im just one girl that really needs help && any advise would be grate.!! ill really appriciate it so much... it would really help ALOT. i just need sum1 just sum1 that is whillin to talk to me that is all .
Please && Thanks you. <3
Well I know how you feel. I trusted people to be honest with me and look what happens...I test positive for this disease. I told my bf as well but he broke it off and he got tested too. We still live together though but I never had any signs or symptoms of it. Then two days ago on the 31st of July, I found out I had contracted it. I started to feel some of the symptoms right away such as the tingling feeling you get. Me and him have had unprotected sex in the past. I never knew and fear I may have given it to him unwillingly just as it was passed to me unfortunately. When I found out I was diagnosed with this, I got very suicidal and depressed, my bf even called the police on me to make sure I wasn't killing myself. Now after asking many questions and talking to a doctor just a few minutes ago, you learn to live with it. It can't kill you and it definitely cant do much more harm its just a skin disease in all technicality. Some day there will be a cure for it. I can assure you that much hun. They have done so much research and it's going somewhere slowly but surely and as time goes it gets less and less well the skin infection does so relax be even safer or dont have sex at all. I just found out a few days ago too so I feel your pain and trust me it is not the end of the world. You are still you :) you can take medicine to suppress the virus but you will always have it until there is a cure. I hope this helps some I lost my mind when I found out but I been doing some research so take it easy and enjoy life 50 million people have it and more don't even know they have it. I am here to talk and be supportive of anyone cause you aren't alone. Life happens and this is the nasty side of it but its not that bad and you can manage it as if you never have it :)
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Wednesday, August 05, 2009 at 04:37 PM
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Wednesday, August 05, 2009 at 05:47 PM
I sympathize for you as well. I find these nice guys and they say oh I am good, I am clean this and that. But in all honesty, it does suck and you learn to cope with it and not make such rash decisions. We aren't all perfect and shit happens for a reason. I still haven't seen any sign of disease or infection and I am glad. I am strong healthy woman to start with so that helps if you are. Making a few changes in your sex life is good too. I educated myself about this and since I was told I had it, I am going with it. No point in getting restested but please let me know the results. I am still trying to cope with this and at school, just starting college and all, I still feel like an outcast, grost and disgusting. People there can still have it and wouldn't know of it themselves, or have it and don't tell anyone because it is no one's business but your own and whoever is closest to you. The only thing it does is hinder your sex life and I have somewhat of a problem with that but there are ways around obstructions. I never had much of sex drive to begin with and I am monogamous or however that is spelled. So, it will shock you but it is okay. As long as you have loving people like my ex who I still live with, family, friends that know you and don't care. Then you can lead a fullfilling life. I am hoping for a cure soon too. But for now all we can do is use suppressive therapy and careful not to pass it on as it is a skin disease that affects the most sensitive areas of our bodies ironically and can go anywhere else.
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Friday, August 07, 2009 at 02:56 AM
Hello, thankfully I received good news. But I will never trust a man again unless I see his test results, I will insist on it from now on and if they don’t like it then I guess they are not worth it. I truly feel for everyone on here and if anyone wants to write please do I am happy to extend any support I can this way. Ashleana you are not gross and disgusting you are a great woman! and sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Good luck with school!
ashleana
Friday, August 07, 2009 at 09:07 AM
Thanks alot! I owe money for back loans and hopefully my school can consolidate private loans so I can keep going. I get depressed from time to time like yesterday but that is good news stay safe honey.
you can go to your local health department without your parents and get testing and treatment. look in your phonebook for location and number
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I just wanted to offer a little sympathy. I recently had a very bad experience with someone who also lied to me. He had intercourse with me, in a supposedly caring relationship, without telling me about his infection. We had conversations about STDs, he repeatedly told me he had been tested and was clear, and then had a sudden impulse of honesty and disclosed this to me. I am awaiting my results and it is the scariest most stressful thing I have experienced in my life as of now. I can’t believe that someone would do this to me. Someone who swore to me that I could trust him implicitly. Reading through this site I see so many similar cases. It is shocking that people can so selfishly play with the health of others.