how can i tell my new partner i have genital herpes?
i am twenty now, but when i was nineteen i was raped && the guy who raped me had infected me with hsv. to tell you the truth i didnt know how to react. i was scared, angry, && sad all at the same time. i never thought in a million years i would have an std. not only did this guy take my innocence, he gave me something that i have to live with the rest of my life. && it is hard to find someone who will really understand you and look past the fact that you have hsv.
i have been dating this amazing guy now for about a month now && i love being around him, but i still have this nervous feeling, because i still havent told him i have hsv. i want him to get to know the real me before i tell him about my past. it is such an emotional rollercoaster. does anyone have any advice on how i can tell him that i have hsv? if you do please let me know.
Hi,
After reading what you've been through I think you are adopting a very level-headed approach to this. Your concerns are perfectly justified is some senses but I suspect, if the man in your life is all you hope he is, it will not be a barrier to your future relations.
A while ago I wrote a Sharepost called Overcoming the Fear of Disclosure, it may provide one or two useful tips.
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open_minded
Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 11:13 PM
thanks you so much for the advice; that makes me feel so much better. i am working myself up to tell him pretty soon. i have never felt this way about a guy and it had never been this hard for me to tell anyone i have dated, he is just different. i really do care about this guy && i dont want to ruin what we have. but i really and honestly can say i dont think he is going to care like i keep dreading. i just wanted to tell you thank you so much for you words. that mean alot to me :]