Found out that my husband has been seeing prostitutes for several years and now I have herpes. I was tested and have herpie virus 1 and 2. I made him get tested for other stds along with the herpes test. Fortunately he has no other stds but what I don't understand is that his herpes test came back negative. How can that be. We've been married ten years and I've been faithful. I have had alot of stress in my life along with having four children and being a diabetic for the last seven years that should have brought out the herpes before we married. And before that I was married 23 yrs to my late husband and he or I showed no signs of herpes. How ironic for it to show up at the time my husband is screwing around and he is negative. Please explain.
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Q: I believe my husband gave me herpes but his test came back negative.
I can see why you might be confused. One of the first things to cross my mind was whether the results returned a 'false negative'. This, along with false positives are always a feature of testing so it might be worth a retest. Having said this, does your husband ever show symptoms of herpes? Not everyone does but a false negative result would certainly seem even more odd if he has outbreaks.
Your posting doesn't say whether you've had an outbreak and if so when? So other possibilities? Well, the path of herpes is hardly a predictable thing. I'm guessing you were only tested once you found out about the prostitutes, but were you ever tested prior to meeting your husband? Is it just possible you could have been infected from a previous relationship? Please understand I'm just picking around the edges here on an assumption his result may genuinely be negative.
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I had my first out break, and it was a bad one, in Oct of 2008 before I new that my husband was screwing around. I did not even think that it was herpes since I have never had an outbreak before or been tested. I wasn't even that familiar with herpes. I thought that it was yeast infection, I know, how dumb can I be. Herpes never crossed my mind until I went to the doctor in March of 2009 and I mention how bad my yeast infection was and described it and that was the first I heard that it could have been an outbreak of herpes so I was tested for all std's including herpes and everything was negative excect for the herpes test.
I Confronted my husband and the truth came out about the prostitutes. He never had an outbreak that I'm aware of and he says he hadn't. My Dr. said he could be a carrier but not have outbreaks. My husband and I decided to work things out but he had to get tested for stds before we have sex again. And we got the results last week. and it was negative on everything even the herpes.
Yes I've had other partners before I meant my husband. But I have had no signs of herpes. I believe I would have known if I had of because the outbreak in Oct was so bad and painful with alot of sores. I've read that the first outbreak is the worst and the others or not as bad. Which that seems to be the case with me. The Dr. has even increase my dose of acyrlic because I kept having frequent outbreaks.
I didn't have herpes when I had my kids or they would have had it. My late husband never shown any signs of herpes.
It just seems ironic. Should I insist that my husband retest again? It's not that I want my husband to have herpes, but after him being with the prostitutes and I get herpes, which he believed that he gave it to me, dosen't seem fair. He commits the adultry and I get the std. Something is wrong with this picture. And of course he had a little bit of a ha ha I didn't give you any stds and I don't have it attitude. So I'm not all that bad after all. You can imagane how I feel.