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Q: My husband of 9 1/2 years has been diagnoised with gential herpes. How long could he have had it before showing signs?

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Disclosing Herpes, Community Member
1/30/12 3:59pm

First of all, how bad were the symptoms? Big outbreak? Fever? Usually these are symptoms of a recently infected person. Is it possible that he was recently infected with herpes? Ask the treating physician to do a blood test for herpes. If the test is negative, it means he was recently infected with herpes. It takes six weeks or longer for herpes to show up in the blood work. You should get tested also.


Note, there are infected persons without any symptoms (or symptoms such as one sore on the lower back) and they are unaware that they are infected with the herpes virus.


If you don't have it (you don't want to have it-- I'll get to that), he has to take an anti-viral drug such as Acyclovir or Valtrex and use a condom.


From this website (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be found in and released from the sores that the viruses cause, but they also are released between outbreaks from skin that does not appear to have a sore. Generally, a person can only get HSV-2 infection during sexual contact with someone who has a genital HSV-2 infection. Transmission can occur from an infected partner who does not have any visible sores and/or may not even know they have herpes.


I suggest you visit this website and educate yourself about herpes. Note, 70% of all persons infected with herpes are by partners without any symptoms at the time. A condom reduces transmission by 30% and antiviral drugs if taken routinely reduce the risk by another 49%. Eventually 1/3 of unifected partners get herpes. 


Finally, the partner who infected me denied having any STDs prior to starting our relationship. We knew each other several months before having a sexual relationship; he was a doctor and had been in a 12 step program for years which emphasizes the need for honesty. I was infected within 2 years into the relationship-- he was too ashamed to tell me had herpers trying to convince me that since he hadn't had an outbreak in years, he didn't have to disclose it. He tried to convince that I had it all of these years and just didn't know it.


Six years later I still have frequent outbreaks on Acyclovir-- I have a weakened immune system. Herpes is a virus and can deteriorate your health. You have it for life. There is no cure.


I hope this helps you.





Felicia, Community Member
2/29/12 10:59pm

I got tested on Jan 31st. On Feb. 6th my test results came back positive. A week after that I found out he knew thur the blood test that he had in on Nov. 23, 2011. and had had it for four months before being tested. He was having an affair with an child (he is 44 she is 21) and she had for over nine months. She was seeing someone else at the same time as she was with him. The affair had beengoingon for 18 months. So now I have this and he is treating like oh he just gaveme a cold. I have 1 and 2 and he do. I was given the acyclovir. I took it for 7 days and now I feel like I should just take it all the time. I already have transverselyitis which had weaken my immune system. I don't know what to except after this.Thank you for answering.

moose444, Community Member
2/29/12 10:43pm

People don't have to have symptoms to transmit the virus, that's called asymptomatic.

Now that you know that your husband have the genital herpes, the important thing to consider is to avoid the outbreaks and transmission.

The prevention includes wearing a condom and/or microbicide, taking the antiviral medication HSV-Zero and telling your partner about the infection (but you've already known this). All of those three strategies have been shown to reduce transmission by 30 to 50 percent.

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