I am sort of a different case with herpes, for which there isn't much information out there. 

  Three months ago, I had a viral culture from sores on my lower lip following mouth to vagina oral sex.  The test occured about a week after exposure, and the results took another week to come back; I had Oral HSV-2.  From my understanding, the incidence for this type of transmission is about 2%.  So I had really bad luck that day.

  So far, as of September, there are no sores on my genitals.  Hopefully, I am in the clear.  I only worry because she had given me oral sex; plus there is the chance of self-infection. 

  Ok, so... I don't need to worry about kissing.  Chances are remote of transmission by mouth to mouth HSV-2, right?  Given enough time, with no sores on my genitals, unprotected sex with a monogamous, "clean" partner is ok, right?

  Silly question, I think, but in the absence of sores, people can drink out of the same glass as I do, correct?  Scuba snorkels, etc.?

  Part of me thinks that I can get away with keeping the secret for the rest of my life... but part of me thinks that it's only fair, even with transmission in my case being rare, to tell my partner about my case of herpes. 

  The latter option creates the usual relationship problems that I've been reading about, and carries the unfair stigma with it.  So given the .01% (approx., of course) chance of me giving herpes to someone else, sexually or otherwise, what is the best course of action?  Of course, I know, no medical professional would ever advise me of keeping my lips sealed... because they have to lean on the side of caution.  Honestly, they are pretty good odds, and I don't think anyone needs to worry or know.

  Also, another problem to deal with at this point, is the female who gave it to me.  All signs and the timeframe point to her, but she denies having it.  C'mon, I'm not stupid.  I can understand not being open about it up front, but after the fact that I now have it.. just tell me, I'm not going to get mad.  Anyways, let's say that she isn't aware that she has it.  I told her to get tested, she said she did.  I could tell by her story and her voice, and by the obvious fact that she has it, that she wasn't truthful.  I just want her to have the courage to get tested and find out.  Or... if she knows, have to integrity to come forward about it.  After all, I would like to have the piece of mind of knowing where it came from. (She's my only sex partner all year)

-J. Ed