Did I get Herpes from my boyfriends one night stand????
My boyfriend had a one night stand and had sex he claims with a condom ,but she performed oral sex on him without a condom. This was November 17th 2008. I got diagnosed with herpes for the first time the first week of February 2009. I hasd symptoms all through January but didn't know whta it was. He has had a blood test and doesn't have any evidence of having the virus. Did I get this from him? He says he has never had herpes at anytime. He also has no signs of herpes in the last months eventhough he has had sex with me several times during my outbreaks, his choice. Did I have this before or do you think he is a carrier by some chance and he gave it to me? It is horrible not knowing this!!!! It has damaged our relationship!! He and I don't know what to think. P.S. he had sex with this other woman before we agreed to be commited to each other techinically, but I found out and it hurts me emotionally very much. Especially since I have only had sex with this man and no one else during our dating relationship. Did he give me herpes because of his one night stand? HELP!!!!
Thank you for any help you can give me.
It could be type 1 u have on your genitals. Type 2 on the mouth is pretty rare. People on sites like this one and many others say u cant have type 1 and type 2 on the mouth but i disagree. If u have type 1 thats not to big of deal. That would expaline of why he dont have herpes on his genitals. But see the thing is if he willingly had sex with u while u had outbreaks condomless i am sure that proves to me he does have it. No guy would have sex with a girl willingly if he knew she had it. Now if u have type 2 on your genitals then yes i think theres a lil more to his story then hes telling u. He had to have sex with her & got type 2 herpes on his dick. Which then he passed it to u. He may have herpes but hes just not showing no signs or symtems. Males can hide it quite well actually. If he has a very good immune system he can hide it very well. They may not get as many outbreaks or if he does have outbreaks it could be symtemless. Which that means he can have an outbreak but u wont know cause he wont have pimples all over his dick or he wont have no symtems period. What i would do if i were u is i would have both of u go to the doctor & take a blood test. I would wait mabye about a month to make sure that the antibodies will show up on the blood test. If u have any questions please feel free to message me.
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t
Monday, June 08, 2009 at 05:17 PM
I think your doctor is right. He had to have cheated. No way around it. I think he carries the herpes virus but dont show no symtems. I believe u said u have had outbreaks already. If he sleeps with u i gurantee u he has herpes. He would not sleep with u if u had outbreaks cause he would risk himself catching it. Trust me i know this. I have herpes for about 6 months now. So im learning alot of the ins and outs of the disease. I am not sure about the pelvic disease. I believe your dr is right though he would test positive for chamindia or somethign that caused the pelvic disease. Um did u test positive for herpes or negative i cant recall?Mabye he just contracted the disease and thats why hes showin negative to. Hes just not showing signs he has it.Good for u that u r giving him a lie dector test. I already think 100 percent hes goin to fail it.
JW
Tuesday, June 09, 2009 at 10:23 AM
I tested positive for herpes once I had that first outbreak around Feb. His Lie detector test is tomorrow wednesday night. His std results also come back tomorrow!!
t
Friday, June 12, 2009 at 12:36 AM
please update me on the lie detector test & the std test to.
JW
Friday, June 12, 2009 at 08:19 AM
Hi, Thanks for asking. He passed the polygraph test with flying colors. The examiner said he was telling the truth no doubt about it. He hasn't cheated on me since the one night stand months ago. We weren't commited to dating each other and no one else but, it still was hard on me. Also his std tests came back negative. I must be one of the woman who get pid from another resource other then stds. Still waiting on my test results.
t
Friday, June 12, 2009 at 11:00 PM
Alright. First off when did he sleep with the one night stand?IT can take up to 3 months for him to turn positive?I mean his antibodies will take that long. If he has a previous infection of type 1 on his mouth it could take even longer to turn his antibodies positive. So even if was negative i would make him retest again. I am glad he passed the pollygraph.
JW
Saturday, June 13, 2009 at 09:43 AM
It was November 14th 2008 and I was first diagnosed with herpes in february of this year. He had a test in early March and it said there were no antiboides present in his blood stream.
t
Saturday, June 13, 2009 at 05:49 PM
The dude that i got it from i think was some where in nov to. Thats when i started showing signs but didnt pick up on it. I thought i had low iron. I got std tested on jan 16th. I first noticed signs of the type 2 on the genitals around the 4th of jan of 08. I think i also have type 2 on my mouth as well thats the signs i started pickin up in nov. He had been clean when i first started sleeping with him i think he slept with someone else to.
Thank you very much for taking the time to help me. You will never believe what is happening now! We both got tests shortly after I got diagnosed with herpes. He tested negative for Herpes, Gonorrhea, and Chlamydia as well. However was told to retest in 3 months. I have the type 2 genital herpes and the type 1 in my mouth as well. I saw his actual test results. But, Now I have a new problem!!! I just got diagnosed with Pelvic Inflammatory disease last week!!!! My doctor told me it is a sexually transmitted disease and most likely I had sex with someone with Gonorrhea or Chlamydia!!!!! I still have only had sex with my boyfriend!!!!!!
I also had negative tests for Gonorrhea and Chlamydia when We were both tested!
My Dr. says it takes 10 days for person to develop the symptoms. 10 days for him? Then 10 days for me? Boyfriend swears he has not cheated!!! I made him go get more testing done. I'm waiting for his Gonorrhea and Chlamydia tests to come back. My doctor thinks he had to have cheated!! but, I read online there is a possiblility that I can get PID from normal things like Douching etc. Small chance. I'm living with my boyfriend and we talk about getting married etc. I don't trust him!! I'm miserable every day!! I told him last week the only way I will stay in this relationship at this point is if his tests are negative and he takes a professional lie detector test!!!! He agreed to all of of this!! I scheduled his polygraph test for this week!! P.S. he was out of town on business approx. 4 weeks ago for 2.5 weeks!! He also has a history of sleeping with escort prostitiutes!! I found this out looking through his email from 2 or more years ago! He of course had to admit it to me! That was done months ago. I went home for 3 days during Dec. to see my family and he contacted an escort online and asked about her services. When I found this out he cried, and begged me to understand. HE SWEARS HE NEVER MET WITH HER OR ANY OTHER WOMEN ESCORTS IN OVER 2 YEARS NOW! He said he was just horny and looking at her picturs and regretted contacting her afterwards.EVENTHOUGH HE HAS HAD SEVERAL ESCORTS HE CONTACTED IN NOV. 2007 BEFORE HE MOVED HERE TO fLORIDA!
HE CLAIMS HE HAS ONLY HAD SEX WITH ME AND THAT ONE OTHER WOMAN IN OVER 2 YEARS !!! I REALLY LOVE THIS MAN AND OTHER THEN THIS HE IS AN AMAZZING PERSON!! IF HE PASSES THE LIE DETECTOR TEST I PLAN TO STAY WITH HIM.
I can ask 5 questions. I'm working on what they should be. Feel free to tell me anything. Thank you so much for helping me and caring!!