oral sex, risk, and treatment options for me because of an amazing guy

I was diagnosed three weeks ago, I was also diagnosed with cervical cancer at the same time. I was devestated and suicidal. The cancer didnt scare me, because I couldnt hurt anyone else with it, but this I could hurt someone with and that is not okay with me. I didnt get a choice in this, I was raped 2 weeks after my last test(I get them yearly) I didnt get retested, because the one thing I was greatful for was that he had used a condom (I am allergic to latex and had a severe reaction,anyone not in a relationship with me dosent know that) I have always been very careful because of this, I met an amazing guy 10 days after my diagnosis, and thought there is no way he is going to stick around. Neverless, I did the right thing and told him about both the cancer and the hsv, to my shock, he said that he admired my courage and character to tell him the truth and I was going to go to heaven for that, and he could never leave me over it, he is understandably concerned about the herpes because he is negative and is in the military, he wants us to do as much research as we can together and he certainly wants me to go on suppresion (I agree with him), but he said he wants to be with me, even if we are never able to physically be together(thats a big deal we both admit that in our relationships the sex is impotant to us) he then pulled out a credit card, cashed in some leave time and will be here in 2 weeks, I have been so amazed by him I actually petitioned my church to have him declared a saint. I want to know what kind of interaction is safe for him? I know him giving me oral sex is probably not safe, but can I give it to him safely? I have polyeurathane condoms for sex so I am not so worried about that. If I have an outbreak what can I do to get rid of it asap, I dont care how much it hurts I'll do it. can you suggest any other alternative therapies aside from valtrex? I already started a lysine supplement and grapefruit seed extract, 1000mg of b-12 and a b- complex, and multi vitamin. I have altered my diet as much as I can, due to some severe digestive issues I have, and I also eat a bunch of yougert and icecream because of my digestive stuff, solid food is almost off limits with rare exception.  I have also looked into oxygen and ozone therapy, as well as Ion detox footbaths. He deserves as much as I can give him in whatever time I have with him. any advice would be really great