i contacted it from my soon to be ex-husband and now i feel like i have a death warrant. i mean i am 40+ and dating. the problem is when do u tell the guy?? it seems once i tell the guy, he disappears... how long should u wait before u tell the guy... i am an honest person and it is hard for me to keep this from someone.. and i am afraid to waiting until i get attached to a person and then tell them and get hurt in the process. i thought telling the guy after a few dates would be better, but now i am wondering if i am right about that.. so is waiting a better idea?? mentally, i feel dirty and unattractive... how do we deal with this and feel good about ourselves??
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Q: i am having a hard time dealing with having herpes.
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6/ 6/09 4:23pm
Its hard hun its called rejection. I know ive told a few guys. And they get scared & run.
8/18/09 8:35am
One of the best things I ever did was to talk to other people with HSV, so I felt like I wasn't the only one. Once you get over the awful feeling that you are the only person in the world who has it it does get easier to deal with. I've found that dating and social network sites for people with HSV are a good place to start. Even if you don't want to date anyone from the internet, they are a good place to meet new friends who have been through the same thing. I've just joined www.yupperdoodles.com. It's a new site, where the people seem friendly, and best of all it's free! Good luck.
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JLL, thank you so much for your response. I realize now that i am not alone and am in a better place in my life... yes, i am still alone but i am not worried about it... i have started going back to church and i am at peace with this... i also know that one day in God's time I will find the man for me and he will accept me for who i am... i am going to join the yupperdoodles site because i did not know anything about that site...
thank you again...