My wife and I separated for about 9 months after I discovered she was having an affair with her boss. Her affair was ongoing and started many months prior to me learning about it. About 8 months after we separated, I had unprotected sex during a 1-night stand (roughly a month before we reconciled).
More than 18 months into our "reconciliation" I had what turned out to be my Initial Outbreak. We were on vacation, 2,000 miles from home and now driving to a beach house for a 3 night stay. Our drive started after breakfast and would take 5 hours. An hour into the drive I started to become very uncomfortable, felt as if I had the flu with all of the associated symptoms... Severe Body Aches, Severe Headaches, cold sweats etc. No vomiting or diarrhea. The previous day I was very tired, but felt normal otherwise. By the time we arrived at the beach i was in Hell. I immediately went inside and hit the bed. Throughout the day, I would periodically watch my wife laying on the beach and envy her... I was miserable.
Throughout the evening and into the morning my fever rose. I also felt very sore in my crotch and noticed that I had a sore blister on the shaft of my penis. At about 3 a.m. I was shivering so badly that my wife became panicked and went out to get some over-the-counter medicines to control my fever of 102.8. She was unable to find any open stores, so we headed for the emergency room.
The doctor was rushed, but seemed to cover everything. I showed him the blisters (now 3 or 4 of them) and he said very confidently that "your blisters are not Herpetic". Until that point I never consider an STD, but it was nice to hear his confidence that it was not Herpes. He gave me a script for Amoxicillin and we went back to the beach house. 24 hours later, my symptoms were almost completely gone, with the exception of the blisters, though they were no longer painful.
I went to my family doctor the day we returned; 3 days after my drive from hell. Even though the blisters were much smaller and not as angry as before, he immediately said "those blisters are Herpes"! He explained the difference between HSV-1 and HSV-2, educated me the best he could and sent me for blood tests. I was notified the next week that I had HSV-2.
This story occurred in 1988, and it was difficult to find reliable and consistent information about the disease and how it is transferred. Even today, after discovering my wife's second and THIRD sexual affairs (the third one ended out marriage) I have no definitive answer about who gave me the disease. My exwife never admitted to having Herpes, although she was cavalier about having sex with me. At the most, she would ask "do you have any sores" before she gave me head. Oddly enough she never asked that when we only had intercourse.
The majority of the time, I typically have less than one outbreak per year, and each time I first notice an aching in my crotch, below my scrotum, along with a sore area where the blisters first appeared. Occasionally, if wait too long to take Acyclovir, I will have a single blister in the same area. The odd thing in all this, is that my ex-wife is the most non-sexual woman I have ever been with. The affairs certainly were not for sex, they were for the attention and deeper psychological issues. We were married for 17 years, divorcing in 2000. Prior to, and after my marriage, I have had the pleasure of being with several wonderfully sexual women and have noticed that about half of them have said "you don't need a condom" before our first sexual encounter. The other half will ask detailed questions about Herpes before deciding if we should use a condom. Guess which of them most likely already had Herpes...