Becky, you can see from the response to my question that many women immediately stated my husband has been cheating. I went with him to the doctor for his results and he only has HSV-1, results show he has had it for some time and that he is a-symptomatic.  I will get re-tested and my doctor will order a certain type of blood work to indicate if it his a chronic or acute problem.  My ob-gyn initially stated if I had this problem when I was pregnant with my sons I would have more than likely had an outbreak during my pregnancies which was over 2 years ago.  She also could not answer why he had HSV-1 and I HSV-2 (although I know it could come from oral sex as well), she began looking at me as if I was promiscious but I put her in her place and let her know that I proudly have been with one person in my entire 33 years and he is my husband.  Now my husband and i have not engaged in oral sex in almost a year.  Our family doctor could not account and wanted to have me re-tested, i am going to do this to find out if it was acute or not  .... I guess it is just one of the mysteries of the virus.  I am adjusting, and talking Valtrex daily, I had my first major outbreak in August, I continue to get them monthly, but they are not as severe as the first, I can tell before when i am about to have an outbreak because there is an increase in my discarge and the feelign of a yeast infection.  This situaiton has actually helped to strengthen my marriage.  I hope this could be so for everyone.  Good luck with your situation - I think your are in a difficult situation since you were never tested for HSV before, the questions you would have to ask yourself is (1) how can you prove that u didn't have it before? (2) Is the unknown worth walking away from your marriage especially if it is a happy one? (3) what will walking away solve?  Just ask your husband to be honest with you and work from there - hopefully if he did cheat you can deal with the problem and move on; if he did not I'm even more happier for you.  I think the best thing is not to jump to any conclusion, and try not to stress yourself out, the truth will come out one way or the other.  In my situation, I could have read the negative posts and attack my husband and make a bad situation worst, but I chose to think about my family and what it really means to me.  Remember, it could be worst.  You can experience an outbreak from 2 days to 3 weeks after being infected - or even longer, you never know.  I had chicken pox four years ago, could that be a reason? ... there are lots of unknowns with this virus.  The good thing it is manageable.  Good luck and God bless!