The time has come. You're dating a great guy and you think that things may soon lead to the bedroom. But, being responsible, you know you've got to have "the talk" before things go any further.
This has got to be a difficult scenario to face. After all, you're in the midst of a blossoming romance with someone you care enough about to have sex AND share a very intimate and private piece of information about yourself.
Opening up about having an STD (particularly the ones that are incurable, like HIV, genital herpes and HPV infection) can be downright frightening and a lot of people may be tempted to opt out of having the discussion altogether. You may even wonder if using safe sex practices may spare you from an embarrassing conversation with someone you're just getting to know.
It might, but if you really care about the person with whom you are considering having sex, you should tell them. It's not always possible to know with complete certainty when an STD is transmissible.
About once or
twice a month, I see a young male in his late teens or early 20s who come to me
to evaluate a bump or lesion on his penis. Interestingly, many of these men
have sought evaluation before and STILL don't know what they have.
Here are the
most common causes of this symptom:
grouped lesions on the penis that are painful? Think about genital herpes as the cause. These lesions can also occur on the buttocks or anal area. The
initial outbreak may be associated with fever. Herpes is the most common STD in
and most genital lesions in men are herpes.
Have a bump
that looks like a wart or has a cauliflower appearance? You may have genital
warts. Warts are caused by certain strains of human papillomavirus --
different ones than those that cause cervical cancer in women. In most cases,
the warts do not cause symptoms, but occasionally they can burn, itch or be
tender. They can also produce a discharge. The lesions may be tan, pink or
When it comes to STD tests, a lot of teens want them all. “Test me for everything ,” they say -- but that’s not really practical. The reason is simple: There are more than 20 sexually transmitted diseases out there, and it wouldn’t make sense to do 20 different tests when you go the doctor. Instead, you get certain STD tests based on whether or not you: are just getting a routine check-up and don’t have any symptoms have symptoms have genital bumps or sores practice certain sexual behaviors find out your partner has an STD just want an HIV test Here are some examples of each reason you might get tested for STDs: Reason 1: It’s a Routine Check-Up, You Have No Symptoms Example: You’re a guy getting a routine check-up. Your urine can be checked for leukocytes (white blood cells) which could mean an infection with gonorrhea or chlamydia. To be sure, you get a urethral swab to make the diagnosis. Or -- if the test is available to your ...
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