I was kept in the dark by my lady for over 4 years.
Our regular was sex being interrupted unexplainably with 'not in the mood' events that finally caused so much tension we started to fight about it. She said it was my job that made me uptight so she didn't feel like it. I quit that VERY lucrative position (the highest paying job I have ever had - before and still to this day). I made a lot of money at that job...loads of it.
After 3 months after leaving the job, the situation showed up again. I said, "I can be single and get rejected." and "it can't be the job because I left that place 3 months ago." She broke down crying and confessed that she had herpes. It was her herpes outbreaks that were keeping her from having relations with me. She cried hard and I comforted her. She was now the victim at this point and I treated her with sympathy and tenderness. We stayed together; after 4 or more years of unprotected sex, it was too late anyway. I truly wish she hadn't blamed my job, but by now it was too late on that front as well.
The real problem is, this whole issue interrupted my professional life in a HUGE way. After over 10 years I have still not climbed nearly that high again. I quit my escalating career to save our relationship but that was because it was only a red herring of "it's your job" that was causing the problem. Now, after several careers and 10 years, I am in a bad, bad rut. I have not had decent employment since the 2008 crash. Her job is good and I am a failure. I am so glad I worked so hard in college just so I could leave a successful career and be the loser I am today. A loser with herpes.... My work record is just about fried these days. I have lost hope.
And she? The woman for which I sacrificed that high paying job? We are still together but when things get rough she reminds me of who "brings home the real money". I never did that to her when my income was 5 times as high as hers, but tit-for-tat ain't the way of the world, I guess. I now feel trapped and worthless. Yes, the question is: "Will anyone love me now?".
I loved her. I still love her. But I don't know if I have ever fully forgiven her for misleading me. I think a career recovery would help, but I just don't know anymore. Just remember this, no matter what your situation, you do not have the right to take away health choices from anyone. It is a great violation and although it may provide temporary cover for you, it will eventually lead to pain and misery for everyone involved.