I have been diagnosed with herpes and my 1st outbreak was two years ago. It was a very difficult and emotional time for me. I had no choice but to confront my partner of three years. The only conclusion I could come to, was that he cheated on me , but what if I had it before I met him , I will never know. Its still killing me that we are now living with this herpes even though he refuses to accept it , he is still in denial.

I just had another outbreak and went back for treatment, so I decided to do the rest of all tests, including HIV.

My Elisa tests came back as reactive. I know that sometimes it can be a false alarm or it can be a true positive. I just wanted to find out if my current active herpes reaction could have contributed towards my Elisa tests or if they are not related at all.

Either way , I'm so devastated and falling apart inside with no one to talk to. I feel like I'm dying slowly inside , like I have nothing else to live for. We are planning to start a family soon. How do I tell my fiance that my Elisa tests came back reactive , if he is still in denial about our herpes? We will start blaming each other and it could be the beginning of the end for us. I'm scared of going back to confirm my results because part of me is scared of whats the real results could reveal. How do break such news to my mother that her only daughter could be HIV positive ?