Hi godsblessing,

  I am in somewhat of the same situation as you except I don't allow myself to get close to any man so I won't have to face your current situation.  I feel I am being punished because I became infected from a married man-he is a RN and first even denied giving me the condition when I confronted him.  I too am ashamed but feel I am undateable-so I have continued the relationship. With approximately 1 in 5 having herpes I feel you should give this man a chance but I would tell him upfront that you are going to take it slow.  You could bring up the topic of STD's if the relationship advances.  Having this discussion would be your opportunity to learn his opinion on STD's.  I wish you well.  Don't be like me.  Having herpes is upsetting but how sad it is to feel there is no hope to ever be in love and have someone to share the rest of your life.   Very sad indeed!!!!!!