I am 37 years old and am a serial relationship-ist. Beginning at age 17 and continiung through until 9 months ago, I have been in monogomous relationships that start out with protected sex and eventually progress to unprotected sex. Seven relationships to be exact. There was, on average, about a year between relationships. I've been tested for every STD immediately following each relationship and then 6 months after that to give any antibodies time to form. Thirteen tests came back negative for any STD. This 14th test has come back positive for HSV-2. I contacted my last partner who went and got tested and was negative. My gynocologist says that I could've been exposed to the virus 20 years ago. If it takes 12-16 weeks for antibodies to develope...why wouldn't they have developed long ago if I was infected long ago? What's the point of getting tested if you get negative results, but are actually positive for twenty years. I am entering a new relationship. We have not had sex yet and I need to have "the Talk" for the first time in my life. My gynocologist recommends he get tested for peace of mind, but what assurance is there if he's like me and tests negative multiple times but is still infected?
How do I convince him that thats even a possibility?
