Hi Bill,
Thanks for your question. This is a conversation that you should definitely have with your doctor. In the meantime, you should definitely keep pursuing education on the subject. Dr. Grayson's written some terrific blogs addressing your question. Click on the following links to read them. Best of luck!
Can I Transmit Herpes Through Kissing?
The Truth About HSV1, HSV2, and Oral Sex
Can I spread herpes to my partner when I have no symptoms?
Transmitting Herpes: How To Protect The Ones You Love