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Thursday, December 03, 2009 dillingero, Community Member, asks

Q: Is it possible to have HSV 2 for more than 2 years without spreading it to someone else?

My wife has been tested positive for HSV 2 and I am not sure of what really happened. I have been with other women in the past 3 years or so, but since my wife and I have moved in together for the past 2 and half years I have had no sexual physical contact with any other women. We had unprotected sex frequently even throughout her pregnancy and thereafter and she was negative. During the time I had sexual intercourse with other women prior to moving in with my wife (unmarried then), I used a condom in every case.


My wife was tested negative a few months ago and she recently did the test again and she was positive. I am certain she has not been with anyone else and I am the one she is more likely to have contracted the infection from.


Is it possible to have had herpes for more than 2 years and not passed it on to her when we frequently had unprotected sex? if this is so can you explain why. I find it strange and mind boggling to have had herpes for so long and did not observe any symptoms, and more so, did not past it unto her until after 2 and half years of unprotected sex.


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K, Community Member
12/ 7/09 3:08am

Well a lot of the times your partner may not show any symptoms for many years. Just because she didn't have any symptoms doesn't mean that she didn't have it also. People today are living there lives with herpes, and don't even know it. There's a lot of facts that I'm still learning and reading about. So if you have any other question feel free to ask. I will help you as best as I can.

dillingero, Community Member
12/ 7/09 9:25am

Thank you for your response. She has done the test a few times in the past and in recent times and was tested negative, until recently her test was positive. I am confident she has not been with anyone during that time and I had been with other women but with the use of protection in the past 3 years or so. I have not observed any symptoms which would have led me to believe it was herpes in the past 7 years to date. However, after moving in with my wife for about 2 and a half years I have had no contact with other women sexually. In 2001, she had a relationship with someone until I met her in 2002. Could she have had herpes then but had tested negative everytime she did the test? or I could have contracted the infection from other women without knowing with use of protection?


K, Community Member
12/ 9/09 4:45pm

Well I've read many stories of girls going to the doctor and testing negative each time. What they did was when they had a cold sore they would go to the doctor, and then and only then they knew exacly what it was. So many girls were tested negative, but were a carrier of herpes. And you know even if you have protected sex you can still contract herpes. That's something my doctor told me. I have protected sex with my fiance all the time, but I still feel that not even that is safe. But  having herpes has in a weird way brought my and my fiance closer.

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By dillingero, Community Member— Last Modified: 12/22/10, First Published: 12/03/09