how do you tell some one you love you have herpes?

I also have herpes. I have been with the guy that i am with for almost a year and i thought that same thing.  I felt the same way.  I didnt know what he was going to think or if he would even still want to be with me.  My mom gave some of the best advice i have ever had and she said that if he cant understand that i didnt ask for this and that there is nothing i can do about it then he doesnt understand me enough to be with me.  I was very scared telling him but after we met and before we slept together i sat him down and just blurted it out.  i probably looked like a complete idiot but he completely suprised me by his reaction.  he told me that he doesnt mind as long as we dont have sex while i have an outbreak.  he was very understnding and he told me that a lot of people have it and he would still love me and want to be with me. so my advice to you is to just tell him.  it feels so much better when u can tell someone.  if he leaves you then it wasnt meant to be. i know its kinda harsh but u will find someone who loves you inspite of what someone else did to you.

Yes, I also contracted hsv2 via rape, cept I didn't know the guy. So what's worse than rape, getting hsv2. At least that was what I thought at the time. I agree that you don't need to tell someone right off the bat, cause heck you may not even know them, and they sure as heck don't know you. So wait until they can see you, and not just hsv2. Sounds like this guy knows you, so yes now is the time to tell him.

You don't want to put yourself in exile from life just because of hsv2. Yes, some guys are gonna walk away, but one day someone won't. And the gal below is right, you don't want them if they can't deal with hsv2, cause a lot worse stuff comes down the pike just living life.

I have hsv2. Been living with it for over 25 years. I have been married for 20 years, and my spouse does not have hsv2, nor do my children. There is life after hsv2, but it starts with you accepting it. Once you do, then you can ask others to. Remember how long it takes you to get it, and don't expect an immediate okay babe. It may take answering some questions etc. Answer them. Have booklets for him, etc.

Whats worse you ask? My daughter has cancer, she is 11. I need a man who can handle cancer now. HSV2 is nothing compared to cancer. Put it in perspective and start living again.

it is difficult to do but true never say hides anything.it is beteer u tell him d truth so that treatments commences btw both of u than u keeping quit.take that courage now