Given the prevalence of herpes, and the constant turnover of
men in my life, I was always surprised I hadn’t met a potential mate who shared
my disease. Well I am thrilled to
say that it has finally happened, and I’m sure this has, or could, happen to many
others of you.
After a steamy night of making out and resisting the
temptation to indulge all of our desires, we spent the next day lounging in the
park, basking in the sun, and enjoying our new interest. Then, out of nowhere, he pushed back
and said, “So I think I should warn you…” and the wheels in my head started spinning…Uh
oh, lemme guess…you’re afraid of commitment? You’re an ex-convict? Drug addict? Until I saw
the look in his eyes, sensed his nervousness, and I knew he was about to
disclose an STD. “I have oral
herpes, so the more you kiss me, the more chances you have of catching
it.” What a r...
Resources www.ashastd.org -- American Social Health Association www.niaid.nih.gov -- National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases www.cdc.gov/std/herpes -- Centers for Disease Control and Prevention www.herpes-foundation.org -- American Herpes Foundation www.herpesalliance.org -- International Herpes Alliance www.gotherpes.com -- Herpes support site www.niaid.nih.gov/dmid/stds/herpevac -- Herpevac (herpes vaccine) clinical trial information
How do you feel about people who have herpes? First of all, let's assume honesty in the
discussion, meaning that someone would not be ashamed to tell you that they
have it. I have to tell you that I think
there is still a shame factor associated with herpes and other STDS, even in
these progressive times. OK, assuming
that you're the kind of person someone would share anything with - what do you
really feel? Would you have a sexual
relationship with this guy or gal or move on.
Is it a deal breaker for you?
Well, it seems to me that (a) people are not sharing for
fear of being ostracized and (b) people are not informed enough on the subject
to make the best decisions when it comes to communication. As a parent who works in health, I did cover
a lot of ground when it came to talking about sex with my kids. I let them know from a young age that they
could bring any question to me and I did my darndest to tell the truth and give
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