I had 2 positive tests from Quest labs, could they both be wrong, should I get a third test from a different lab? I have never had an outbreak. I'm 42. I have occasionally had minor sores in my mouth since I was very young, but not sure what they are and I tested negative for type I.
If I was exposed to asymtomatic shedding, the only known incidence was when I was in my early 20's and a woman told me after we had sex several times that she had occasional outbreaks. She incorrectly told me that I couldn't get it when she didn't have an outbreak. Since I never had an outbreak I thought I was fine.
I got tested for STD's between partners but apparently you have to really push to get Planned Parenthood to do it. I thought they were testing for everything but didn't test for Herpes until recently when it finally came up specifically. Before I had the test, I had frequent oral and genital sex w/o a condom for over a year with a woman who just tested negative a year later, plus sex with 2 other women a few times who also both tested negative recently. I'm so relieved but planning at least one more long term relationship in my life and would like to have an idea on her risk with or without condoms. According to everything at CDC and elsewhere, my non-transmission with unprotected sex for a year never happens, so I don't know what to believe. I have had an active sex life with many committed relationships where we didn't use a condom, and never heard that anyone ever got or had herpes. I want to be both responsible and realistic. At this stage in life I'm more concerned about quality of life for me and a long-term partner than being about to "play the field" without transmission.
Also, is it known if people with asymtomatic cases tend to pass it on to people who get it asymtomatically when it is transmitted?
any clues appreciated