It's possible the prior tests were wrong: http://consults.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/08/27/getting-tested-for-herpes/. Why did she have prior tests? I would find out what tests were done since the older ones were know to be unreliable. Why second guess yourself? Have her doctor perform the same blood test on you. You may not have it and want to protect yourself from getting it. The two of you should sit down with her doctor and discuss what steps should be taken based on your blood results. Relationships require honesty and this is a good way to take the guessing out of it.
Thank you for the link. I definitely will look into getting tested.
The test she had was the IgG Type specific. Which from what I read is the most accurate? On the part about her tests... I found out that during her physicals she would ask to tested for STDs and the assumption was that herpes was part of that screening, which to my understanding may not be the case. Since I just finished getting a full physical from my own doctor. They did extensive lab work which came back with flying colors, yet I called back to find out there was no herpes testing. Is this a misconception among people? That saying test for STDs automatically includes herpes? Argh!
With the relationship, luckily we've talked about it openly and are trying to read up on the subject in general since there aren't any doubts of infidelity. Since we are planning to end our relationship and i would prefer not to alert my insurance company to possible herpes incident (self employed), my question is, is there harm in assuming that I have it and plan my life on how to keep healthy what we have to look for with each other symptom wise. This relationship is headed
towards marriage, but incase it ever ended, then I definitely would be tested to make sure anyone I meet after has the full story on my situation. Is this a bad idea to wait to be tested since I haven't had any symptoms? and I missing something crucial to a process like this? forgive my naiveness. Is there really a chance that after 4 years I could not be infected?
For now, we are not having any sexual contact till we figure this out along with the HPV/cervix dysplasia we are currently dealing with.
Thank you for your response.
Surely you might not have it. It took my girlfriend seven years before her husband infected her. My other girlfriend who was very careful in her marriage has never infected her partners-- valtrex, condom and in tune to her symptoms. I understand your concern with testing and health insurance. While the new insurance laws indicate they cannot turn you down based on pre-exsiting conditions-- it's up in the air. You could check into these clinics where you can pay cash and be tested without using your name. You could wait until later. Meanwhile, start practising safe sex-- I would assume you don't have it and keep it that way. I have a terribly case of genital herpes and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Good luck to you.