Hey Cmclane,

I just had my first outbreak of genital herpes this past week. Turned out to be HSV-1 which I guess I should be happy about. I am beyond devastated. I think Ive read everything possible on the net until the early hours of the morning every night. I've cried everyday. Im 33, never married, not promiscuous, always practiced safe sex. All I can think about is that now I will never get married and have the family Ive dreamed of, who will want me, I feel totally damaged. Id lvoet o hear more about your story, after 11 years of marriage, thats crazy. Has your husband been tested? How is he taking this?

Hello.  I just got diagnosed yesterday with GH (well not yet waiting for results).  I feel the same as you.  I am 38 and single.  Not sure how long I have had this.  I think I might have had symptoms for the past year but it presented itself first as a sore hard spot.  I just assumed it was an area that became infected from either ingrown hair or after intercourse (friction).  Never had "bumps" till now.  They look like clusters which is usually a good sign that its herpes.  I am waiting for results but almost positive that is what it is.  I am so sick to my stomach and crying all the time and embarrassing crying at work and unable to tell anyone.  I feel "dirty", keep wondering how me when I waited till I was in my mid 20's before I had intercourse.  I think the same as you as far as who will want me know and if the day comes will I be able to have a child "naturally".  I am currently in relationship and almost completely sure it did not come from him.  As he tells me he still loves me.

His words " 

>You have people that love and support you....that will be there for you no 
>matter what.
This is sweet and all but now I dont think i can ever relax and have normal 
relationship with him or if it doesnt work out in the future.  I feel sick and 
wonder if I ever gave it to someone else

So your current boyfriend took the news pretty well? I am only 28 yrs and got dx a few months ago. I started seeing this guy and he is a great guy. I don't know if I should break it off with him or if I should just let him know. I don't like rejection so I don't know what I should do. Do you have any suggestions on how or if I should tell him???

Please let me know

Thank You

hello, i am not sure if you still check this site but i am in the exact same position as you where a year ago. I have 2 little girls under 2 one is 4.5month i had her naturally 2month later my first primary outbreak i am so blessed that this didnt happen in pregnancy or childbirth but i am struggling everyday with this knews. i constantly live in fear i will pass it on to them changing a nappy or something i also feel i am getting an outbreak often i am wondering if it's psychological. i too thought it was a uti or some complication with my 3rd degree tearing. any advice from you will be fantastic. thank you