There are two types of herpes (HSV), herpes simplex one and herpes simplex two. Both live in the spine in a latent stage, and are most likely to manifest themselves when someone is feeling depleted. simplex one generally manifests itself on the mouth as a cold-sore, and simplex two generally on the genitalia. however simplex one can appear on genitalia and vice versa. 

Herpes is a skin to skin transmitted disease. Meaning just rubbing of the genitalia, closed mouth kissing, and oral sex can be modes of transmission. one of the most common ways of it spreading is parents kissing their children. Also, the most contagious time for the virus to spread is not during an outbreak, rather when the skin is "shedding". An outbreak may never actually occur.

One in four adults in the USA have herpes, and since the most common symptom is no symptom at all it is incredibly possible to contract the infection from someone who didn't know they had it. 

It is no worse to have simplex one and two than it is to have simplex one or two. Valtrex should be working to reduce symptoms for both. Since it is a skin-to-skin disease you can still pass it on when using a condom. For when you think about it, a condom covers some skin, however at the base of the penis there is still exposure. It is possible for HSV to manifest itself in other places besides the oral and genitalia regions, such as the nipple and anus. However it is highly unlikely and impossible for it to manifest itself above ones eyebrow.

The CDC just came out with a statistic that one in four teenage girls will contract an Sexually transmitted infection, and that is just testing in girls. Therefore, I would not be worried and ashamed about your condition, and for more information I suggest making an appointment with a local woman's clinic or planned parenthood.