Married for 6 years and I have 2 children, 2 weeks ago I had my first outbreak

He cheated sorry.  My husband did the same thing and gave it to me when we were going through a divorce.  The good news the longer you have it the less severe it gets unless you get a new partner, husband well you will get to go through it all over again. It is hard to diagnos so probally he did not realize she had it and he caught it and gave it to you, but the truth is he is a womanizer and gave it to you like mine did me not realizing what they do to the woman at home who really loved them. It is a selffish act and I will never forgive him.

oh come on, it has been medically proven that symptoms have taken years to show up in both males and females, im an RN, just because he didnt show symptoms does not mean he cheated, he could have very well contracted the disease from a past partner and simply passed it on to you.  and he could have not shown symptoms for years. 

I feel your pain and I hate to tell you that more than likely he cheated on you, as many men and women do. And if you remember seeing a sore on his penis in the past, then he knew that he had it. No one wants to tell someone that they have it, because most people would break up so that they will not get it. If they are really in love with their partner, they will take Valtrex in order to try and protect you.

I have a similar problem.  I have been in a monogamous relationship with my husband for 6 years.  We have one child.  Prior to that, we both had several partners, some of whom we had unprotected sex with.  I just went to the doctor today.  Last week I had a fever for 2 days, was very achy, and yesterday morning I noticed a small "sore" in my genital area.  I did not even think that it could possibly be herpes, but according to my doctor, that is what it looks like.  I can completely mortified.  I am still waiting for the bloodwork to come back.  My husband was tested for HSV 1 & 2 before we were married, and the test was negative.  I was never tested for HSV.  Is it possible that I am having my first outbreak after 6 whole years of nothing?  I am in shock. 

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I just found that my husband of over 2 1/2 years has genitial herpes. It is possible that I might not have it?

I have genital herpes, but didn't have an initial outbreak, until after we were married.  I know I contracted it before we were married.  My husband to this date has never had an outbreak and I don't know if he has it or not.  Doesn't really matter at this point for us, but it's possible your husband has had it all these years w/o knowing, like I didn't know.   I luckily don't have a lot of outbreaks with it, but it's something I'll have to live with for the rest of my life too, so you are not alone.    Approximately 25% of women are infected with it to date...unless you think your husband cheated then he probably didn't know he had it.  Hope that helps.

I just found out today that I have HSV 1 and 2. I have never had an outbreak and I have been with my husband for 10 years. He has had outbreaks before, but doctors told him that it was folliculitis and his blood work was also negative. I have two children and was tested with both of them and was negative. I was even tested when I went for my annual 2 months and that was negative. So today when I got my results I was very confused. Oh yeah I was with my husband at his E.R visit the first time and present for all his lab work. I received the results so again I am confused and very upset because why was this not caught sooner. What if I've had this for years, I could have killed my babies. If anyone can explain to me why I am just finding this out now please explain.

I am in almost the exact same situation. Had a outbreak a week ago and went in to get tests. My husband had one sexual partner before me and he was the first man I had sex with, oral or otherwise. He has never had an outbreak, never a blister or anything that he can remember. My doctor thinks its herpes, I almost had a heart attack when she said it. I have been faithful to my vows, and my husband has too. I am very religious and this is a huge blow. I am still waiting on the test results, and am praying harder than I ever have before that it won't be herpes.

My wife and I divorced seven months ago for financial reasons, but we still live together. After 19 years of marriage the divorce was intended to protect certain assets, but my wife also saw it as an opportunity to relive her single days.

Well, 3 months after the divorce was finalized my ex-wife ( supposedly in name only) started going out alot with her girl friends...ha, ha. However, it wasn't until she started getting extremely moody that I began to suspecct something was amiss. I started poking around in her things, something I had never done before, and discovered a tell-all journal that immediately made me feel insignificant and sad; it detailed several one-night stands. But a further search produced something that made my heart sink; I found Valtrex, Zovirax, Xanax, and a copy of a statement for completed lab tests.

She had been taking, off-and-on, the lowest dosage of Zoloft following the onset of menapause a few years back, but she never said anything about Xanax. I did not know what Valtrex or Zovirax was until I googled them, and what I saw made me sick. Not only was she cheating on me, but she also contracted genital herpes!

I am hoping she only recently contracted it. Even though our sex life came to a screaching halt about one year ago, I think it was due more to the stress of our situation rather than to extracurricular sex.

I am watching and waiting for any indication that she may have given it to me before her outrageous behavior began. As for the marriage, I guess it really is a divorce in the traditional sense; I think it's time to leave.