I have a similar problem. I have been in a monogamous relationship with my husband for 6 years. We have one child. Prior to that, we both had several partners, some of whom we had unprotected sex with. I just went to the doctor today. Last week I had a fever for 2 days, was very achy, and yesterday morning I noticed a small "sore" in my genital area. I did not even think that it could possibly be herpes, but according to my doctor, that is what it looks like. I can completely mortified. I am still waiting for the bloodwork to come back. My husband was tested for HSV 1 & 2 before we were married, and the test was negative. I was never tested for HSV. Is it possible that I am having my first outbreak after 6 whole years of nothing? I am in shock.