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Q: I have Genital herpes. It is only on my penis. I was wondering, Under this scenario, since it is only on my penis... Can I still kiss a woman, and go down on her without giving her what I have?

I was given Herpes by unprotected oral sex. The woman and I never kissed nor did we have sex. I have no signs on or around my mouth. And by kiss I mean all out tonsil hockey here, and by going down on a woman I mean tongue in her. My genitals would never go near her in fear of infecting her. I wanted to know if I could still do these things with out her getting infected.
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Disclosing Herpes, Community Member
1/26/12 9:08am

Have you told her that you have herpes?  If you haven't, you need to disclose it. From what you describe, you have HSV-1 in the genitals. If you give her oral sex and you do not have it in the mouth, it should be okay. But how long will that last? Even if you don't have sores, you can transfer the virus.


From this website (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention)



HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be found in and released from the sores that the viruses cause, but they also are released between outbreaks from skin that does not appear to have a sore. Generally, a person can only get HSV-2 infection during sexual contact with someone who has a genital HSV-2 infection. Transmission can occur from an infected partner who does not have a sore.

















JethroJester87, Community Member
1/26/12 2:02pm

Of course I have told her... We discussed it after I first started to have signs. I went to the doc, it's been a week with no phone call, back so I we think it could be something else entirely. The Doc had a hard time figuring it out. So I'll be going back in and I know all about Oral Herpes, I understand how, just about EVERYONE has it. I've been down there hundreds of times and still she hasnt had anything and has been tested. So I know we are safe on that end. But thanks for your help man.

Disclosing Herpes, Community Member
1/27/12 3:46pm

Just about everyone has it, is not true. Perhaps, among your friends but they use that as an excuse to pass it on and it's not. You need to understand that women with herpes generally suffer physically more than men from it due to their anatomy. Their immune systems are weaker in that area than men (so that they can be pregnant). Women with weaker immune systems can become very ill from herpes. It is a virus that can lead to complications.

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By JethroJester87, Community Member— Last Modified: 01/27/12, First Published: 01/25/12