Im 99 percent sure I have herpes.. I have been to 2 drs and they keep treating me with antibiotics. If i have genital herpes can i kiss my family.. what if the drink after me..how long does this pain last it has been one week.. Im so tired. is that normal..?

All these questions are great ones, and I also had all these question. If you have genital herpes the only way you can give it to someone is by having sex. And yes you can kiss your family unless you have a cold sore on your mouth. But that only occurs if you have herpes 1. Just to be on the safe side I don't share anything with my family, but you can. I just do it as a percaustion. Well my first two outbreaks lasted for a little over 2 weeks, and the pain didn't go away until those 2 weeks were over. My third outbreak which just ended lasted me about 1 week and a couple of days. I didn't have any pain this time, but I did experience flu like symptoms. Then again every outbreak I have flu like symptoms which is normal. And you being tired is normal. When you have an outbreak it affects your immune system so you start feeling sick and tired. You should try taking some vitamins.
If you any other question just message me or something, and I'll try and help u as much as possible.

keep in touch

i am 25 and have had herpes for 4 years. i had signs the first time and it was for two weeks and it was bad. the stress more then i could express i didnt stop stressing for a while but i have never takin anything and never seen any signs.  i was with five different girls in that time. they all new never used protection and none ever got anything.  until now four years latter it has re accured. it is worst now. i dont know if i re infected myselfe or if it just reaccored. it was like i forgot i had it but i sure as hell remember now. fuck me. i hate my life. by this point i dont think im going to kill myselfe but prob go crazy and do some dumb shit. maby hit 200 down the highway. skyjump. shoot some crazy good dope.   that or find god again and do something great i dont know anymore. if i knew i wasnt going strait to hell i would kill myselfe 

if you have type 1 which is oral herpes then yes you can spread that with a kiss . If you have genital herpes then no you cant spread that orally. go back to your doctor and get a culture done that will tell you if you have herpes or not. Ask all the questions you can while you're there. I remember when I went just for a check up and she mentioned herpes. I completley forgot all the questions I was going to ask her . Because I was so thrown off by the thought of me having herpes. Write down everything you want to ask and remember if the test is positive it isnt the end of the world. You are still the same person! And nothing will change that!

....I have to comment on the reply to this post. I haven't been diagnosed yet but I can read the writing on the wall, I know I have hsv.  ....my question that agree's with the oriinal post is, why should I continue life? so I can live in a nightmare, going through the motions pretending to be happy for the next 50 some years? to keep others happy? It seems hell trully is on earth in that case.....

I completely agree. I contracted herpes from one protected encounter with someone I truly trusted an had been friends with for years. He had never had any symptoms. I work for myself which means I work pretty much all day everyday. And a lot of that work involves heavy lifting and stamina. Well work is not short of absolute torchure for me now. Which means life is torchure. And I can't make money if I can't work. And I've already fallen so far behind in two weeks that I have had to beg friends and family for loans just so I am not homeless. I was already in a situation where I had to work everyday to just barely survive. The asshole who gave it to me has been completely non supportive, even kind of nonchalant about it. And my first outbreak has been awful, and is rolling up on week two right now with no signs of slowing down even though I've been taking antivirals before I even had a blister. So Hell Yeah I want to kill myself. I spend about ten to thirty minutes at the end of the day holding my kitchen knife to my arm and trying to find the courage to free myself from this miserable life. So really who would I be to tell you not to. 

I won't advise anyone to kill themselves even though you may be going through many challenges livibg with herpes but it is something u can live with as long as possible you could even reach that 70, 80 or 90 years u thought u always would. So Please don't ever bring the thought of killing yoursef into your mind anymore but rememeber there are lots of people out there who love you  and trust me you are love by more ppl than you might think...

I am 18 yrs old and i've been diagnosed with herpes for about 2weeks, and everyday i wake up feels like the worst day of my life. I can't eat I can't sleep I rarely speak and everyday my condition gets worst.How am i going to explain to someone thatt i have herpes? how will I ever have children? How can a women love a man with herpes? Even though they're a bunch of medications to reduce the outbreaks and to prevent it from spreading there's still no cure. No matter how good any medication works at the end of the day I'm cursed till death. I know life goes on, but it just feels like it's too much to deal with.

i feel where ur coming from man. i got diagnosed with herpes myself about 2 years ago. ive had girlfriends since then that knew about my herpes and still accepted me for a while but then they left and went with other guys. fucking shit happens. maybe youll find a girl with herpes and have a life with her. its too bad god hates us all so much, but o well what the fuck you gonna do about it but move on.

hey idk what your going threw but if a girl really loves u then she wont care what u have and u can have kids if u take the right meds, its not soo hard and there is ppl u can talk to so dont give up think of ur mom and dad or just ur familly that love u, u dont want to put them threw hell cus u killed yourself idk what ur going threw but im here for u when ever u need it kk =)

im 17 years old male and i just found out i have herpes today. feel like i want to cry but i cant. im not even sexually active and have probably hooked up with the same 2 girls during highschool? i am honestly concidering suicide, this disqualifies me from the Marine Corps. and pretty much a decent social standing. USMC is all i've ever wanted to do and right when I enlist MEP this shit happens.. honestly people don't think this shit can happen to them.. happens to anyone. fuck my life.

i am in the navy!! U can be in the Core and have herpes.. there are people with AIDS in the military. i suggest you do what you want, join. focus on that. save lives. that will help you feel better about your situation. like you're at least doing something with your life. the long deployments will help you from getting in a relationship with some girl that will only break your heart anyway.

Actually, in some people, both forms of the virus can be completely eradicated over time through their own bodie's immune system, provided of course that they keep their immune system healthy and strong, and do not keep reinfecting themselves by having sex with someone they infected themselves or someone who was already infected. (The Pap Virus is also usually elminated in most people after 9 years or less through their own healthy immune sytems and preventing reinfections.  So this virus also in not necessarily a permanent resident in the human body.  It's just that many people keep reinfecting themselves or they have comprimised immune systems that prevent their own immune system from eradicating it completely.)

Use condoms during sex or dental dams for oral sex.  And ALWAYS use them.  Remmeber that you can infect someone or they can reinfect you even when neither of you have any symptoms or outbreaks.

So, for some, this disease is NOT life long.  And you may very likely be one of the fortunate ones.

Also, continue to educate yourself and keep up with the latest research about vaccines, etc. (Also, educate yourself about keeping your immune system healthy and strong.  Among other things, you can avoid stress, and keep your body supplied with Zinc, Vitamin E, Vitamine C, and other vital vitamins and minerals that help keep your immune system healthy and strong.)

Most importantly, remember that for many people, some never get any symptoms througout their entire lives.  In fact, many people are infected with genital herpes and don't even know it and never will.

Some may just have one outbreak in a life time.  Others may never have one at all.  Plus, if you are the type to get outbreaks, your first will likely be your worst.  And most people have less outbreaks the older they get.  And outbreaks usually become less severe over time.

Also, remember that any outbreaks you have can stop at any time.

And generally speaking, whether you are the type to have any symtoms or not, you will still likely be able to live a normal life.  Any outbreaks you get will be your only biggest inconveinene.  And you may never get any or you may just only get a few in your lifetime.

So, live your life like you don't have Herpes.  But yet be cautious.  And remember that this disease is very common.  And it doesn't change your value as a person.  You are still you.  And you don't have to define yourself by this disease.  Neither does it have to be the end of the world for you. 

(Remember that a hundred dollar bill is still worth a hundred dollars no matter how crumpled, worn, torn, dirty, damaged, or aged it may become.  And certainly you would rather find a crumpled, worn out 100-dollar bill than a crisp, brand new 1-dollar-bill any day of the week.  Also, herpes infects the best of people -- as do other diseases.  Many celebrities have some form of Herpes or other STD.  But you would never know it.  And sometimes, neither do they.)

Do you have it? If not, that's easy for you to say. It doesn't go away in everyone. Some of us are NOT fortunate. Iv'e had it for eleven years and if anything it's gotten worse. I take medication and vitamins for it, and they don't do a thing. And I didn't get infected through sexual activity. I am in constant misery because of it EVERY DAY. I've also lost friends over it. So unless you're infected, you really don't know what it's like to live with it, Okay?

this statement is not correct. No one can eliminate the disease from their body once they have it. The herpes virus lives in your nervous system, where your immune system cannot reach. When you have an outbreak the virus is coming out of a central nerve ganglion and out to the skin's surface and causes blisters, lesions, and skin irritation. If/when your immune system attacks the virus your symptoms start to go away and the virus retreats back into your nervous system, where it can lay dormant for a long time. Unfortunately herpes is for life.

I have had this disease for only a couple of months now. I also think about suicide almost every day. The man who gave this to me knew he had herpes and infected me on purpose. I get very angry when I think about what he did to me. He was irresponsible, but I was irresponsible too for trusting him. You can't take people on their word, especially not men. I am pretty depressed and have a gloomy outlook on life. Whats worse is that I work in the public health field, so I feel like I should have known better. I don't know how to make you not want to kill yourself, I am here reading this site looking for the same answers. I figure if I am still alive, there has to be a reason for me to be here (althogh it is torture not knowing what that reason is). I agree, I feel like this is hell on earth. I have to keep working, keep pretending to smile, keep going through my day to day when inside I just want to be dead.  I used to wish for a husband and a family but now I think it's better just to not have any dreams because that will save you from dissapointment. I cry just about everyday. Every once in a while something nice will happen that makes me forget myself and I can actually smile for real and feel good on the inside. I am just hoping that those good times increase in the future.

i my self am in the health field and just found out two weks ago that i have herpes.i to cry everyday...i think of how it will effect my daughter who is only four im so scared to touc her i dont wanna wake up  anymore n shes the only thing keeping me going .but i dont want to keep going i keep thinking why the fuck me off all the fucked up bad people out there im a nurse n really try to be agood person to everyone im only 23 i hate myself so much now....i feel like i cant talk to anyone n that if i do they will look at me way differntly so i just want to say to u that i feel like im in the exact same position as u n it feels really good to know that im not alone.

Please do not feel that loved ones will look at you different. Its amazing I am sitting her after having dinner with my family reading all of these posts. It is thanksgiving, and I am waiting for my test results to come back from the GYNO. I am not sure if I do have herpes but I am preparing myself. I still have until thursday till I know for sure or not. It saddens me that people get so down on themselves because I am feeling it too. I just hope you all know that I find comfort in all of your posting as well as saddness. I hope you all realize how very special and amazing you truly are. And after going through this I can just say, if I come back negative which im crossing my fingers for, and I met a man who I really wanted to be with and he told me he had herpes I would not walk away. After reading all of your posts and comments and browsing the internet to find comfort I have let the stigma go without even knowing if I do or do not have herpes. I feel that this says a lot. I realize that herpes can effect anyone. Herpes does not mean you are dirty. And it certainly does not mean your life is over. We all have so much to live for! Stay strong.

Let me just say this. Life hasnt quite let you down yet . Be happy that you dont have Cancer, HIV,AIDS, . All of those things can kill you and you will lead a painful , gloomy, slow dying life. But you dont have any of those things. You have herpes a virus that causes what ? blisters ? that last how long 2 weeks or a little more / less? From what I have read and researched you can still live a very normal life! Have kids even. If you find that right person to love you for you then you can have that fairy tale life . Husband, Kids, white pickett fence. I have had herpes now for about 2 weeks . And like you the one I was with was very selfish and irresponsible by not telling me he had it. He may have not known. But I really dont care about the specifics I have it and that cant change. You should wake up every morning thanking GOD you woke up. And every day that you thank him it will get a little easier. My mother just informed me she has it and she had it before she had kids . And guess what her kids came out fine . She has been married now for 12 years. And she has a husband who loves her for her. They almost had another baby but she miscarried. And he is still not infected!!!!! Life goes on!!!!!!!! You need to take this time to educate others. Start a group for young girls who may be dealing with the same thing . Or need a little guidance . And a little knowledge . Iam only 23 years old and I never ever expected this to happen to me! But I got over it quick! cause I still have a life to live and a family to love! And they need me more than anything..But if you still need to tlak feel free to email me or something! GOOD LUCK TO YOU

I am in my second relationship that a man has told me he don't want to have sex with me because he don't want to get herpes.Even though we have had sex hundreds of time,all of the sudden he don't want to anymore.

I really love this guy and there are other factors telling him to go to hell;which I finnal did today.But both men said the same thing to me.They wish we had meet when we were younger and they don't want to risk getting the disese and being a loser.Oh but I'm not a loser.

I can find a support group in my area,Madison Wi.And very few people know I have herpes.

I'm affaid that I will never find a man who will love and accpet me for who I am.

I'm so depressed.

Please.I'm not going to kill myself but am in so much pain.

Why do people have to be such asshole.When you love?

Tha nk you for your time.

im sure your a really great girl.and im not going to be mister cheer you up lol. I think i have herpes a girl didnt tell me and knew she had it and i slept with her 8 months ago. and im in a relationship with the best girl i have ever met. and i just found out about this girl that did that to me awile ago it really sucks not to mention the many other problems i got.I think they should have herpe dating sites lol  anyways im sure your a nice girl later

There are lots of herpes dating sites. I haven't checked them out myself, but I have heard that some are really great and some are just scams trying to sell you "cures."

I also want to add that if someone lied to you about having herpes and slept with you, that is a criminal offense. You can report them to the police and have criminal charges pressed against them. You can also file a civil suit if you want them to pay for your medical expenses or for emotional stress. It sucks to have to do this, but this is how I contracted the disease, through someone else's lies and deception. When you have this disease you have to be very responsible and you have to let people know. Maybe not right when you meet them, but definitely before you have sex.

you should definatly not kill yourself i was diagnosed a year ago and thereis suppressive therapy that i suggest everyone take it everyday it reduces risk of transmition and shedding . it also reduces outbreaks. i have a gf and we have been together for nearly a year and she is still herpes free . it took some adjusting to but there are people who will love you . my suggestion is to let someone love you as you before you have sex and when it feels like you can trust them and they like you then tell them you have it . If you have herpes protect yourself all the time if you are a girl and girls have ur guy eat u out with a dental dam . If 4 out of 20 ppl have herpes there are alot of relationships going on where one has herpes and one doesn't. TAKE VALTREX DAILY .  i was a victim of somone who had it and didn't tell me . if you do wear condoms and avoid one night stands with people to reduce the risks of passing it on to multiple people. the problem with the herpes isn't the herpes its the stigma behind it . the first outbreak is the worst it will ever be.  after a year it will happen less and less these outbreaks . you need to be healthy eat right and excersize. staying healthy is important cause if your body is unhealthy or your immune system is low outbreaks may occur. girls tend to get out breaks around the time of there period so girls no sex before your period and check the area daily and that goes for boys too . look at your junk in the shower girls feel with your fingers and make sure there are no cuts or bumps on your junk if you feel something and ur not sure what it is no sex point blank .

this was very helpful thank you. i am 17 and found out i had it at 16 it sucks...:(.

what i dont get is if i want to have children my partner will most likely catch it? and i am also glad i did not get aids or HIV.but i also got HPV which also sucks

Im 30 years old.. I dont have herpes but I have 2 friends who do and have dated a guy who did.. He was upfront with me about it on like our 5th date.. It wasnt a big deal because he was very to the point about it.. he told me he got it in high school so we just were very careful about using protection.. I never got it from him in the 3 years we were together....Its hard for you because in high school teenagers are very immature/cruel but once you get in your 20's you mature up and realize 1 in 5 people do have herpes.. dont let it bring you down.. trust me, you are never gonna have a problem as long as you own up to it, be mature and dont apologize.. it is what it is.. one thing another poster said is very accurate though.. You are going to be much choosier about who you go to bed with and also going to be more monogamous because having "the talk" is no fun..PS You dont have to tell your friends.. it's not something to be ashamed of but its also none of their business. Just your sexual partner when the time is right :) I hope my response has helped you understand the "other" side of it

are you married???

I just found out I have herpes too. I'm a 28 years old female. Do you think I should kill myself too? 

Im a 20 year old female and not even 2 days ago I was diagnosed with HSV type 2. I dont want to live anymore either. I know how your feeling. I feel like no one will accept me for this horrible disease and I dont blame them.  Ive been contemplating suicide a lot lately after I found out. But I also know I wouldnt be able to hurt my family and friends like that. It's a selfish thing to do. As far as moving on with life I dont know how I'm going to pull that off yet. I feel like life for me just came to a dead end. I would rather be dead than live a lonely life.

It's been a while since you wrote this, so I don't know if any of you guys (girls) will see this but I'll give it a try. . .

Hang on.

I was diagnosed when I was 24. I'll spare you the details, but I too seriously considered suicide.

Don't do it. At least not because of herpes.

At first I had it a lot. And it was awful. But very quickly, my outbreaks became very infrequent -- once or twice a year. And now ten years later, I can't remember the last time I had an outbreak at all. This was without medication, so I was lucky.

Reading your posts brought it all back to me. I felt dirty, ruined, destroyed. I felt like the person I trusted with my body treated it like trash. I felt like I deserved my punishment because I was stupid. On and on.

My advice is, get yourself on some medication quickly to stop the outbreaks. You will feel strong and in control again. You will feel like yourself.

The other thing is, I know I'm like a hundred years old to you right now, and you don't live in my world but trust me, as you get older you will meet a lot of guys who say, listen, I have to tell you something . . . I know I have. I don't want to say it's nothing, but you it's not as big of a deal as you think it is now.

Wish I could give you all a hug.

how old are you? I'm in my early 30's and I've only known 2 people to have HSV 2. I know that most people won't tell you, and most people just don't know they have it. I got sad today when I thought, in a group of 100 people most likely 20 people have genital herpes, but only 10% KNOW they have it, so only 2 people actually are aware, and most likely only 1 of them is a guy. I feel like I have no prospects for the future and abstinence an lonliness are all I have to look forward to. Could you please talk about how you met these guys or exactly how often this has happened? I am not at all excited about using the herpes dating sites. I met the man who lied to me and gave me herpes on match.com so I don't really ever want to use one of those services again